Again, I dont look at it as an action for leisure. Its not a past time to me.
So I cant be with a girl who has treated it as a past time.
And if a girl has only had sex with people she has "loved", to me that means that that love didnt last or wasnt real. So whatever we may feel might not be real either. Therefore it would diminish whatever it was we had.
And again, I couldnt feel comfortable being with a girl who knows exactly what she wants sexually, and has experience, and reference points when I have never had it. Too much pressure. Too much jealousy.
You're basically damning a girl and taking her off the table for living and figuring out what she enjoys and wants out of her life. Yes, that includes sex. You're damning something you never even experienced for yourself. It's like me saying pizza is disgusting, but I've never eaten it before. You have no ground to stand on then
Is it more fun to watch a movie for the first time with someone who has seen it 1000 times; reciting every line, knows exactly what to expect?
Or with someone who has never seen it so you can experience the movie for the first time together?
I don't want to further discourage you or anything.. But if you don't watch a little porn and at least try to jerk off a couple times to get ready for it then there's almost no doubt it'll most likely be a bad experience lol even most virgins have jerked off and watched porn before.. You're not even gonna be able to find the vagina lol it'll be awkward af
I cant be with someone who has had sex before. Like I said it adds pressure to the relationship, and creates jealously issues. Plus I would want our special moments to be shared. That cant happen if she has lost her virginity to/has fucked other guys.
You are a very shallow person. It's interesting that you are so judgmental of someone's life experiences, that you are willing to ruin a friendship and potential soul-mate sort of situation over a choice they made in the PAST. Note the emphasis of 'In the PAST'. Something that is not a negative quality of their character, but a choice they made in the past that has no practical baring over anything that would happen in the future.
I have this lovely scenario in my head... Where you meet the perfect girl for you. She's everything you've ever dreamed of. She loves all the same games as you, loves all the same music, she is breathtaking, and has the same views on relationships as you.... I see you dating for a year and then she decides to tell you about the horrible thing that happened to her in the past. How she was raped by someone she thought was her friend and how traumatic it was for her. And then at that very moment you stand up and say to her "Im sorry. We can no longer continue this relationship. I cannot be with someone who has had sex before. It was nice knowing you"
Fucking shallow. If this happens irl im gonig to call you a piece of shit for doing that to someone.
when someone will base how they feel about someone because of something they did, as opposed to the quality of their character- Then yes, I consider that shallow.
I cant be with someone who has had sex before. Like I said it adds pressure to the relationship, and creates jealously issues. Plus I would want our special moments to be shared. That cant happen if she has lost her virginity to/has fucked other guys.
You are a very shallow person. It's interesting that you are so judgmental of someone's life experiences, that you are willing to ruin a friendship and potential soul-mate sort of situation over a choice they made in the PAST. Note the emphasis of 'In the PAST'. Something that is not a negative quality of their character, but a choice they made in the past that has no practical baring over anything that would happen in the future.
I have this lovely scenario in my head... Where you meet the perfect girl for you. She's everything you've ever dreamed of. She loves all the same games as you, loves all the same music, she is breathtaking, and has the same views on relationships as you.... I see you dating for a year and then she decides to tell you about the horrible thing that happened to her in the past. How she was raped by someone she thought was her friend and how traumatic it was for her. And then at that very moment you stand up and say to her "Im sorry. We can no longer continue this relationship. I cannot be with someone who has had sex before. It was nice knowing you"
Fucking shallow. If this happens irl im gonig to call you a piece of shit for doing that to someone.
What if someone is a cheater? Thats something that happened in the past. Could you trust them? Would you want to be with someone who is known for cheating on their sig other?
Same idea applies. I dont want somebody who treats sex, or has treated sex, cavalierly.
I don't think he'll ever get over it. And if he finds a girl that's for him and a virgin, when they do have sex it'll be a disaster. Especially if it was like when I lost mine (extremely painful, blood everywhere that wouldn't stop, etc). It wasn't enjoyable whatsoever
And btw, if there is one thing Ive learned from all this fucking bullshit, its that none of the fantasies Ive once had can come true. Perfection doesnt exist. And relationships and romantic emotion are especially flawed.
I dont expect to find the perfect girl anymore. I dont even expect to ever find a girl remotely interested in me.
I'd say something as to why you can't think like that, but I don't think you'll ever find a virgin compatible with you. Unless you can get passed "ew..some other dude had his weiner in you. We can't be together nooww", chances are slim pickens
Im fully aware how small my pool is becoming. The older I get, the smaller my pool becomes cuz more and more girls are having sex.
I cant be with someone who has had sex before. Like I said it adds pressure to the relationship, and creates jealously issues. Plus I would want our special moments to be shared. That cant happen if she has lost her virginity to/has fucked other guys.
It would be another case of me putting more into it than she is.
Classic Virgin overblow way of thinking
the second tip breaks the gush barrier all thoughts of it being a special moment vanish.
I'd say something as to why you can't think like that, but I don't think you'll ever find a virgin compatible with you. Unless you can get passed "ew..some other dude had his weiner in you. We can't be together nooww", chances are slim pickens
Im fully aware how small my pool is becoming. The older I get, the smaller my pool becomes cuz more and more girls are having sex.
I cant be with someone who has had sex before. Like I said it adds pressure to the relationship, and creates jealously issues. Plus I would want our special moments to be shared. That cant happen if she has lost her virginity to/has fucked other guys.
It would be another case of me putting more into it than she is.
Classic Virgin overblow way of thinking
the second tip breaks the gush barrier all thoughts of it being a special moment vanish.
If I got down about a girl from my past who I wasnt in a relationship with sending a pic to somebody, imagine how Id be learning about other dudes who have fucked a girl I was in a relationship with.
I don't think you're mentally stable for any kind of romantic relationship, really. I hope you go out and have experiences, learn more about yourself and other things, challenge your way of thinging among other things, etc. But idk if you'll ever let yourself leave the comfort of your own bubble
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I have this lovely scenario in my head... Where you meet the perfect girl for you. She's everything you've ever dreamed of. She loves all the same games as you, loves all the same music, she is breathtaking, and has the same views on relationships as you.... I see you dating for a year and then she decides to tell you about the horrible thing that happened to her in the past. How she was raped by someone she thought was her friend and how traumatic it was for her. And then at that very moment you stand up and say to her "Im sorry. We can no longer continue this relationship. I cannot be with someone who has had sex before. It was nice knowing you"
Fucking shallow. If this happens irl im gonig to call you a piece of shit for doing that to someone.
Same idea applies. I dont want somebody who treats sex, or has treated sex, cavalierly.
I dont expect to find the perfect girl anymore. I dont even expect to ever find a girl remotely interested in me.
Im just speaking hypothetically.
I started to catching y'all up on the saga.
I didnt mean for a fight to occur. Im ducking out of it.
the second tip breaks the gush barrier all thoughts of it being a special moment vanish.
Its not worth it. Period.