Actually, that might be the perfect path. Dudes like your friend that get angry and pussy-starved are girl repellant. Making yourself unavailable for girls would actually make it to where the person has to actually be right for you. So many people just waste time with people that are obviously wrong for them in efforts to force things. By hanging back and not trying for that, things will happen more organically. I think I may have just seen the light
Actually, that might be the perfect path. Dudes like your friend that get angry and pussy-starved are girl repellant. Making yourself unavailable for girls would actually make it to where the person has to actually be right for you. So many people just waste time with people that are obviously wrong for them in efforts to force things. By hanging back and not trying for that, things will happen more organically. I think I may have just seen the light
There is so much truth to this. But the hard part about it is actually getting to this state. I've seen many guys claim to be done with women, but are so pussy-starved the second one looks their way. The most action I ever received from women was when I made myself unavailable because I was having fun doing my own thing. I didn't do it to play games. I literally had shit I wanted to do in life, and was just done living my life for the chance of a hook up. I'd get home from doing things I wanted to do, to see a full answering machine (before cells) of women wanting to do something with me that night. It was bizarre. I remember thinking "Where the fuck were these girls for the last year when I had their pussy on a pedestal and would have literally done anything for them?"
Yeah. It's a clear balancing act. It occurs to me that this is how I ended up with my current relationship. I was kinda "over" women at the time because the last girl I'd dated went groupie at a Horse the Band show and embarrassed me while she was drunk. I was in a take-it-or-leave-it state of mind when Amanda came into my life. I felt no pressure because I wasn't looking for a relationship. It happened more organically
Yeah. It's a clear balancing act. It occurs to me that this is how I ended up with my current relationship. I was kinda "over" women at the time because the last girl I'd dated went groupie at a Horse the Band show and embarrassed me while she was drunk. I was in a take-it-or-leave-it state of mind when Amanda came into my life. I felt no pressure because I wasn't looking for a relationship. It happened more organically
) holy shit I remember that story! hahaha... For some reason I was thinking it was from someone else. Look... If you think you have it bad MC just remember that Satans girl got drunk and fucked this dude at a show. And the picture below is trying to make them look good. These fuckers are nasty irl )
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No offense satan... Just happens to be one of the the most fucked up relationship stories I've ever heard. Like I get people cheat and shit happens... But with fucking HORSE the bAND!!! Jesus christ.
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Plus they are shitty musicians. I mean if it was someone like Joe Duplantier, you can be like "Ehhh... Can't really fault you there. I'd probably fuck him too". but that shit band?!?!?!?! ) )
How do you think people grow? You take risks, get hurt sometimes, go through pain, deal with it, learn from it, and come out a better person. Wiser and more experienced than you were before. If you live in a bubble, never take risks out of fear, let that and negative thoughts control you and your actions/decisions, you will never grow or improve as a person. "Never change, stay the same" is only acceptable in middle school and high school yearbooks.
You don't have to do any of this now, but keep that information in mind. Don't stay locked up in your fear bubble forever
Look I'll be honest. You're one of my best friends. And I have no secrets. I care about you a lot. But here's the deal.
I have been struggling with on-and-off feelings for you for years now. It's dumb, I know. But I've had a hard time getting completely over you.
I know you've said that you aren't interested in me in that way, but sometimes when we hang out I feel like you might. Obviously its mixed signals, and my brain interpreting conversations and actions differently than what is really happening. Human minds are irrational and stupid in that way.
Regardless, I am not healthy. Emotionally and mentally. And a lot of it stems from my conflicted feelings for you. In order for me to get healthy, I have to get over you.
I have been clinging to some false hope that you might someday change your mind. That if I keep at it long enough and hard enough I could convince you that I am worthy of you.
Last night, through various conversation its obvious that you do not feel the way towards me as I have towards you. And that's not your fault. That's part of life. I get that. My quest is a fools errand.
But for once, I am going to think of my own miserable life for once. And its because you're one of my best friends that I am thinking this way...
But I dont think spending 10 hours in a car, and a night in a hotel with you will be good for my mental health.
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Like I said, I dont want to meet a girl anymore anyway. The worth is not there.
I dont want the pain.
You don't have to do any of this now, but keep that information in mind. Don't stay locked up in your fear bubble forever
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I jam desperate living from time to time
spill it Will :!!
"No, I actually cant go now"
"Why? Did I do something wrong?"
And here we go boys and girls
No, its nothing you did.
Look I'll be honest. You're one of my best friends. And I have no secrets. I care about you a lot. But here's the deal.
I have been struggling with on-and-off feelings for you for years now. It's dumb, I know. But I've had a hard time getting completely over you.
I know you've said that you aren't interested in me in that way, but sometimes when we hang out I feel like you might. Obviously its mixed signals, and my brain interpreting conversations and actions differently than what is really happening. Human minds are irrational and stupid in that way.
Regardless, I am not healthy. Emotionally and mentally. And a lot of it stems from my conflicted feelings for you. In order for me to get healthy, I have to get over you.
I have been clinging to some false hope that you might someday change your mind. That if I keep at it long enough and hard enough I could convince you that I am worthy of you.
Last night, through various conversation its obvious that you do not feel the way towards me as I have towards you. And that's not your fault. That's part of life. I get that. My quest is a fools errand.
But for once, I am going to think of my own miserable life for once. And its because you're one of my best friends that I am thinking this way...
But I dont think spending 10 hours in a car, and a night in a hotel with you will be good for my mental health.
Im sorry. I hope you still have a good time.