Pops is going to have to have the Brock lesnar surgery. Essentially they are going to take out the part of his colon that is all fucked up.
Hes gonna have to wear a poop bag for 3-6 months.
After that though i think his outlook will be pretty good. Hope he does good in surgery though. Hes getting checked by lung/heart doctors today to make sure hes good to go into surgery.
He's actually doing pretty well when I talked to him yesterday. It sucks that he's 45 minutes away because I can't just stop in and see him with us only having one car at the moment.
But when I talked to him yesterday his spirits were up because he just wants to feel normal again, and they brought someone in to explain how it will work, and they told him he will be able to.live a normal.life soon after the surgery.
He said he just wants to be able.to walk the dog lol.
Pops made it through surgery pretty well off. He had what is called a loop ileostomy. basically this cut his intestin and colon and attached those to a bag outside the body while everything heals up. Then they will sew him back together.
Hes got a massive scar. Goes from below his belly button to almost his chest. But they cut out about 7 inches of intestines that were bad.
Hes doing well. Hes in pain but should be out of the hospital in about a week.
yeah i didn't know exactly how it was spelled lol. But yeah. He isn't so bad that they gave him a button, but he gets it at regular intervals.
What type of back surgery did you have @SATAN That shit always scares me because i dont feel like ive meant anyone whos had major back surgery that isn't like always in pain lol.
yeah i didn't know exactly how it was spelled lol. But yeah. He isn't so bad that they gave him a button, but he gets it at regular intervals.
What type of back surgery did you have @SATAN That shit always scares me because i dont feel like ive meant anyone whos had major back surgery that isn't like always in pain lol.
I’ve been in constant pain since around August of 2000. I was working at a paper company and a stack of skids fell on me in the warehouse. Herniated my L5 and S1 discs and they eventually had to be removed. I spent a year trying to rehab before I gave in and had the surgery. That year was insane because doctors just dumped an assload of painkillers on me, to the point where I ended up with an ulcer. The surgery alleviated the pain, but I’m fucked for life. I was 22 when I got the surgery. If I’d had any idea what sort of pain I’d be dealing with and for how long, I would’ve held out for more money in my lawsuit. I’ve had to learn how to mostly deal with the pain on my own. As part of my settlement, I got a year of free healthcare from the company. When that ended and they cut off my painkillers I thought I was gonna go insane. I lost a beautiful girlfriend I had at the time because the withdrawals I experienced made me a raging asshole. I have nerve damage, so there’s constant pain and burning sensations going down my left leg and my left foot is mostly numb. A couple of years ago, I stepped in broken glass and my foot was so numb that I couldn’t feel it and it had blown up with infection before I realized what had happened
My dad has lost everything do to his recent medical issues. After almost dying from septic shock he spent about 6 weeks in the hospital and rehab.
They then discharged him to a motel that he had 3 weeks worth of money for.
Hes now at the end of that stay, and he basically told me today that its his time, and showed me the Detroit lions shirt that he wants to be cremated in. Ive done everything i could. Ive tried to connect him to resources. Ive set up meetings with case workers. I filled out his application for SSI for him. Hes going to get that but hes a few months away. I even sent him the suicide prevention line.
He had the nerve to act like he was mad i wouldn't let him stay with me even. ( i actually think he was drinking today). I told him i have been trying to be nice about it, but that i refuse to have an addict move in with me because of my kids. I have peace in knowing i really tried to help as much as i could, without sacrificing myself or my family. But man i wont lie that its hard.
All this started about the same time i found out Amanda was pregnant and its almost impossible for me to describe what it feels like to be growing one human, while watching one essentially vanish from my life. Its been a complete mind fuck to which ill probably have to go through some counseling to fully learn how to deal with it.
I can't imagine what it will actually feel like if he offs himself in the same month my son is born.
Its sad that people in a true mental health crisis cant see how selfish they are truly being. But what sucks for me is that through all the heartbreak. addiction to drugs and alcohol. essentially my entire life my father has disappointed me. I still wish i could do more to help him. Im at peace that i cant, but man i wish i could. Its weird.
Not really looking for anything from you guys. I really just needed to put some of this in writing. Thats what this thread is for. a good venting.
I’m really sorry to hear that man. I can’t even imagine. From what it sounds like, you’ve done everything you can to help and not having an addict around your children is the smart and necessary move, as rough as the call is. I’m here for ya if you need to talk
It's just crazy. I never could have imagined something like this happening.
But well keep getting up. I've removed myself from most of the BS that surrounded my life growing up. I'm in a good place in life with the family im apart of. Just a tough day.
That’s some tough shit to go through, but being the one to break the generational cycles of trauma and abuse for your children is one hell of an accomplishment. I was able to do that, my sister was not, and the difference is very apparent in her kids compared to mine. I’ve always done what I could to give her kids some extra guidance, but it’s never enough. My youngest kid is getting ready to enter college now. All my kids graduated. None have been to jail (my oldest was arrested for weed once) We never lost custody of any of them, they never went through foster care, they never got molested, never split custody on weekends as separated parents. They weren’t raised by grand parents. None of these should really be accomplishments worth mentioning but if I put any of that on FB most of my friends list would feel personally attacked.
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Hes gonna have to wear a poop bag for 3-6 months.
After that though i think his outlook will be pretty good. Hope he does good in surgery though. Hes getting checked by lung/heart doctors today to make sure hes good to go into surgery.
He's actually doing pretty well when I talked to him yesterday. It sucks that he's 45 minutes away because I can't just stop in and see him with us only having one car at the moment.
But when I talked to him yesterday his spirits were up because he just wants to feel normal again, and they brought someone in to explain how it will work, and they told him he will be able to.live a normal.life soon after the surgery.
He said he just wants to be able.to walk the dog lol.
Hes got a massive scar. Goes from below his belly button to almost his chest. But they cut out about 7 inches of intestines that were bad.
Hes doing well. Hes in pain but should be out of the hospital in about a week.
Oxy which he claims doesn't work, and Dilantin.
They gave me that after my back surgery in 2001
What type of back surgery did you have @SATAN That shit always scares me because i dont feel like ive meant anyone whos had major back surgery that isn't like always in pain lol.
My dad has lost everything do to his recent medical issues. After almost dying from septic shock he spent about 6 weeks in the hospital and rehab.
They then discharged him to a motel that he had 3 weeks worth of money for.
Hes now at the end of that stay, and he basically told me today that its his time, and showed me the Detroit lions shirt that he wants to be cremated in. Ive done everything i could. Ive tried to connect him to resources. Ive set up meetings with case workers. I filled out his application for SSI for him. Hes going to get that but hes a few months away. I even sent him the suicide prevention line.
He had the nerve to act like he was mad i wouldn't let him stay with me even. ( i actually think he was drinking today). I told him i have been trying to be nice about it, but that i refuse to have an addict move in with me because of my kids. I have peace in knowing i really tried to help as much as i could, without sacrificing myself or my family. But man i wont lie that its hard.
All this started about the same time i found out Amanda was pregnant and its almost impossible for me to describe what it feels like to be growing one human, while watching one essentially vanish from my life. Its been a complete mind fuck to which ill probably have to go through some counseling to fully learn how to deal with it.
I can't imagine what it will actually feel like if he offs himself in the same month my son is born.
Its sad that people in a true mental health crisis cant see how selfish they are truly being. But what sucks for me is that through all the heartbreak. addiction to drugs and alcohol. essentially my entire life my father has disappointed me. I still wish i could do more to help him. Im at peace that i cant, but man i wish i could. Its weird.
Not really looking for anything from you guys. I really just needed to put some of this in writing. Thats what this thread is for. a good venting.
I will always appreciate yall though.
It's just crazy. I never could have imagined something like this happening.
But well keep getting up. I've removed myself from most of the BS that surrounded my life growing up. I'm in a good place in life with the family im apart of. Just a tough day.