She had a fucking meltdown today about me inviting my brother to come with us to the zoo tomorrow. Going off about how we never spend time together yadda yadda.
Like I get it, I'm a very busy person. My work schedule is stupid, I work nights, so we're on opposite schedules. But like, nobody gets to see me. So when I do have off, I try to share my time as best as I can. I didn't think my brother coming along to the zoo so that I could see both would be an issue. But apparently it was.
Mixed with other stuff the last couple weeks, I'm just getting sick of the bitching from her. It's like every other day there's an issue. Whether its work, or me, or whatever, I've just lost my patience putting up with her. Plus she's just at another level with the relationship and life, and she's starting to lose patience with me getting my life together, so there's just constant drama and I'm getting sick of it.
Like the last couple weeks have been spent busy doing things. Fun things, dont get me wrong, but it's been like constant weddings, and cons, and family parties.
I barely even see the family I live with. And I need to juggle the very little freetime I have trying to balance her, my family, all my friends and friend groups, my band, and even just ME time. I haven't had time to work on my band's recordings or order our new merch. I haven't made a Youtube video or finished a game in forever. I haven't written new music since I finished writing this EP months ago. Im burnt out. And her getting mad or sad about stupid fucking shit has reached its breaking point with me.
Like she got so fucked up at my best friend's wedding last week, she was crying all night over something I'm assuming I did, but she wouldn't talk to me, and then she was throwing up all night, so I got no sleep staying up taking care of her, and she's still mad at me over inviting my brother to the fucking zoo. Ok.
There's also the issue of this vacation thing. We were supposed to go New Orleans with some friends in mid-August, and we cancelled because I am having financial issues and couldn't afford to go.
But then my mom really wanted to have like a "last hurrah" family vacation before my brother went back to finish school, and eventually move out and all that, so she planned a vacation for us at the beginning of August, and now my gf is all mad and salty about that because I still get to go on vacation and she doesn't. And I understand being mad, but it's all just starting to build up.
My phone died but my point of telling you that story was yeah you have to talk about it eventually and if either you break up or she changes. Either way you win
Yeah sorry bro. I don't get the logic. Of course there are going to be things that just the two of you do, but a lot of special moments are when she is there and your family and friends are there. Holidays, graduations, cookouts, certain vacations, etc are usually accompanied by those people too. Gotta get used to it
My girlfriend hasnt really been talking to me much the last few days. So yesterday I asked her if she was mad at me, and she went off on how she doesn't think our relationship is going anywhere, and that I dont make it a priority, and that we've stagnated, and that Im not moving my life forward, ect ect.
It ended with me basically saying that I dont think I can change in the drastic ways she wants me to. And her saying "we need to talk about this in person". And that was the last we said to eachother.
My girlfriend hasnt really been talking to me much the last few days. So yesterday I asked her if she was mad at me, and she went off on how she doesn't think our relationship is going anywhere, and that I dont make it a priority, and that we've stagnated, and that Im not moving my life forward, ect ect.
It ended with me basically saying that I dont think I can change in the drastic ways she wants me to. And her saying "we need to talk about this in person". And that was the last we said to eachother.
That's rough. It's this stage that is harder than anything IMO. At least if you break up you can start moving forward on your own terms. Hope the best for ya.
My girlfriend hasnt really been talking to me much the last few days. So yesterday I asked her if she was mad at me, and she went off on how she doesn't think our relationship is going anywhere, and that I dont make it a priority, and that we've stagnated, and that Im not moving my life forward, ect ect.
It ended with me basically saying that I dont think I can change in the drastic ways she wants me to. And her saying "we need to talk about this in person". And that was the last we said to eachother.
How you holding up?
Im sad she's feeling that way, and worried she's going to dump me. But Im not going to let it get to me until we talk.
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Like I get it, I'm a very busy person. My work schedule is stupid, I work nights, so we're on opposite schedules. But like, nobody gets to see me. So when I do have off, I try to share my time as best as I can. I didn't think my brother coming along to the zoo so that I could see both would be an issue. But apparently it was.
Mixed with other stuff the last couple weeks, I'm just getting sick of the bitching from her. It's like every other day there's an issue. Whether its work, or me, or whatever, I've just lost my patience putting up with her. Plus she's just at another level with the relationship and life, and she's starting to lose patience with me getting my life together, so there's just constant drama and I'm getting sick of it.
I barely even see the family I live with. And I need to juggle the very little freetime I have trying to balance her, my family, all my friends and friend groups, my band, and even just ME time. I haven't had time to work on my band's recordings or order our new merch. I haven't made a Youtube video or finished a game in forever. I haven't written new music since I finished writing this EP months ago. Im burnt out. And her getting mad or sad about stupid fucking shit has reached its breaking point with me.
Like she got so fucked up at my best friend's wedding last week, she was crying all night over something I'm assuming I did, but she wouldn't talk to me, and then she was throwing up all night, so I got no sleep staying up taking care of her, and she's still mad at me over inviting my brother to the fucking zoo. Ok.
But then my mom really wanted to have like a "last hurrah" family vacation before my brother went back to finish school, and eventually move out and all that, so she planned a vacation for us at the beginning of August, and now my gf is all mad and salty about that because I still get to go on vacation and she doesn't. And I understand being mad, but it's all just starting to build up.
My girlfriend hasnt really been talking to me much the last few days. So yesterday I asked her if she was mad at me, and she went off on how she doesn't think our relationship is going anywhere, and that I dont make it a priority, and that we've stagnated, and that Im not moving my life forward, ect ect.
It ended with me basically saying that I dont think I can change in the drastic ways she wants me to. And her saying "we need to talk about this in person". And that was the last we said to eachother.
An event we thought would never happen, happened.
I've met you. You're a good dude. Have that confidence to know that no matter what happens you will be okay.