I wouldn't be surprised if you didn't fall for her at all and just think you did. Which means you have severely McFucked yourself. At the same time not putting much effort into it and lack of really trying added to your own McFuckery
I want to be happy. I dont want to be rejected/dumped again. I dont need a second girl McFucking me. One is enough.
She didn't Mcfuck you, you mcfucked yourself.
Whoever McFucked who, I dont want to fall for another girl and not have her reciprocate the same feelings. I dont want to put more effort into a relationship than the girl will. I dont want to feel more rejected and worthless than
You say you fell for her, yet you only saw each other and hung out rarely. You never really kissed with emotion or passion, probably held hands a few times. That's the equivalent of a flirtatious friendship that happens in middle school. If you really fell for her you would want to be around her every chance possible, share everything with her (thoughts/opinions/views/experiences/etc), miss her every time she isn't around, wouldn't want to live w/o her or even imagine such a thing, etc etc.
I wouldn't be surprised if you didn't fall for her at all and just think you did. Which means you have severely McFucked yourself. At the same time not putting much effort into it and lack of really trying added to your own McFuckery
Some people really need to learn the difference between love and infatuation.
Also fuck outta here FF you're more pathetic than I am. What are you trying to prove acting like you got your shit together? You get Mcfucked by a different girl every other week.
seriously though. You if you can't get over her why not actually go after her, and im not talking about asking her out. When a girl knows you want her shes isn't interested. Stop answering her texts everytime she texts you. Tell her you're busy when she asks to hang out sometimes, but don't tell her exactly what you're doing. You need to be mysterious.
Never even talked to a girl in high school didnt kiss a girl or lose my virginity till freshmen year of college used to think if prob never get a blowjob, that only porn peoe got that shit lmao i was lame as fuck.. I realized finally how retarded I was being and it's gotten better every year since im still no player by any means but I do ok .. You have to put effort in tho.. You put like a 5/100 total effort into being in a good relationship.. You gotta at least get to 75/100 what do you have to lose?
And you're still single though. Do you see yourself getting married or finding a longtime girl? Honestly answer that.
I was in the same position. I did not have anything close to a gf in high school and before. In 8th grade I had this girl that sat behind me in social studies that I had the biggest crush on, and she would literally spend the entire class writing "I love you Joel" on my back with her finger. Sometimes she would draw hearts and stuff... I wanted to tell her how much I liked her but I was frozen with fear of a possible rejection. Isnt that funny? How can I fear rejection when she is literally telling me she loves me daily?
My first gf was literally freshman year of college. I was lame as fuck. I was no player.
a few years after college, I met and married my wife. It really wasn't until about the age of 24-25 that I actually started understanding how relationships worked. It wasn't until I actually started understanding who I am more, that I started being able to be an actual contributing member of an adult relationship. I feel like there should be classes on this shit as opposed to learning by trial and error- however maybe learning by trial and error makes the one that sticks all that more meaningful.
seriously though. You if you can't get over her why not actually go after her, and im not talking about asking her out. When a girl knows you want her shes isn't interested. Stop answering her texts everytime she texts you. Tell her you're busy when she asks to hang out sometimes, but don't tell her exactly what you're doing. You need to be mysterious.
It will show her you have your own life, your own priorities.This is very important to chicks. They don't want to be with someone who always says yes and doesn't have anything interesting going on in their life. You also need to fake being confident. Chicks get off on confidence.
Also fuck outta here FF you're more pathetic than I am. What are you trying to prove acting like you got your shit together? You get Mcfucked by a different girl every other week.
Nah, just one. And unlike you I actually knew exactly what i wanted out of it. Seems like you just kept after the one girl because you were already friends, and it was "easier" for you. The way you make it seem doesn't sound like you were actually "in love", just infatuated with the idea of her.
And the results are the same. He's living proof of everything I have been talking about.
Lol how do you figure? Circumstance is the biggest thing that fucked things over with her, you fucked yourself over. And you know.. for the longest time I felt like an asshole because of the guy she was still dating when everything happened between us, but the more i figured the little shit out, I realized it's because he wasn't doing shit whereas I was actually doing everything right. I know for a goddamn fact it wasn't lust, I seriously doubt anyone has actually lusted over my looks lol. The major thing that fucked me over was her going to school, it made it harder for me to see her, whereas she probably saw other people constantly because of it. I'm still pissed off about it, believe me I am, I would have tried anything to make it work with her. I told her at one point that if I could i would do anything for her....but I kinda realized after a point that the only thing I could for her at that point was leave her to it. I haven't had any contact with her whatsoever for a month today now. Sometimes I just want to text her and say hey, but I don't because this has to happen, but not because I want it too.
I will be the first to tell you that I don't have everything figured out, but I'm not gonna fucking sit around and give up on something that I really want just because it didn't work out how I'd hoped the first time. That's being a fucking coward.
So you can keep at it like you have been, even though like you said a few posts ago that you still aren't over her, and believe me when I say that unless you force yourself away from her and move on, that will NOT happen. It fucking sucks, I know, but if you aren't going to try to be with her, then *just* being around her will make everything worse.
I am not in the same boat or worse off than you, because I am choosing not to be. I know I mentioned meeting someone recently named Danielle, whom I find to be really interesting, honestly. We went to Universal Studios last weekend and had a blast, and when I see her tomorrow (she's going to see Obituary/Broken Hope with me) I'm going to ask her out for next friday (my birthday). Do I know for an absolute fact she'll say yes? No, but is it still worth it to try? Absolutely.
I realize you'll probably (at most) skim through this and stick to your previous conclusion, which you can if you'd like, doesn't make any difference to me ultimately. Just keep on keeping on the way you do, but you'll soon figure out that the person who can make you feel better than anyone else can...can also make you feel worse than anyone else.
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My first gf was literally freshman year of college. I was lame as fuck. I was no player.
a few years after college, I met and married my wife. It really wasn't until about the age of 24-25 that I actually started understanding how relationships worked. It wasn't until I actually started understanding who I am more, that I started being able to be an actual contributing member of an adult relationship. I feel like there should be classes on this shit as opposed to learning by trial and error- however maybe learning by trial and error makes the one that sticks all that more meaningful.
Lol how do you figure? Circumstance is the biggest thing that fucked things over with her, you fucked yourself over. And you know.. for the longest time I felt like an asshole because of the guy she was still dating when everything happened between us, but the more i figured the little shit out, I realized it's because he wasn't doing shit whereas I was actually doing everything right. I know for a goddamn fact it wasn't lust, I seriously doubt anyone has actually lusted over my looks lol. The major thing that fucked me over was her going to school, it made it harder for me to see her, whereas she probably saw other people constantly because of it. I'm still pissed off about it, believe me I am, I would have tried anything to make it work with her. I told her at one point that if I could i would do anything for her....but I kinda realized after a point that the only thing I could for her at that point was leave her to it. I haven't had any contact with her whatsoever for a month today now. Sometimes I just want to text her and say hey, but I don't because this has to happen, but not because I want it too.
I will be the first to tell you that I don't have everything figured out, but I'm not gonna fucking sit around and give up on something that I really want just because it didn't work out how I'd hoped the first time. That's being a fucking coward.
So you can keep at it like you have been, even though like you said a few posts ago that you still aren't over her, and believe me when I say that unless you force yourself away from her and move on, that will NOT happen. It fucking sucks, I know, but if you aren't going to try to be with her, then *just* being around her will make everything worse.
I am not in the same boat or worse off than you, because I am choosing not to be. I know I mentioned meeting someone recently named Danielle, whom I find to be really interesting, honestly. We went to Universal Studios last weekend and had a blast, and when I see her tomorrow (she's going to see Obituary/Broken Hope with me) I'm going to ask her out for next friday (my birthday). Do I know for an absolute fact she'll say yes? No, but is it still worth it to try? Absolutely.
I realize you'll probably (at most) skim through this and stick to your previous conclusion, which you can if you'd like, doesn't make any difference to me ultimately. Just keep on keeping on the way you do, but you'll soon figure out that the person who can make you feel better than anyone else can...can also make you feel worse than anyone else.