Parents have been married 25 years and my grandparents over 50. All of them fail though.
Mine are still married as well. But I bet they wouldnt be if they didnt have kids, and werent married, and didnt feel obligated to work out their issues because of it.
Parents have been married 25 years and my grandparents over 50. All of them fail though.
Mine are still married as well. But I bet they wouldnt be if they didnt have kids, and werent married, and didnt feel obligated to work out their issues because of it.
Parents have been married 25 years and my grandparents over 50. All of them fail though.
Mine are still married as well. But I bet they wouldnt be if they didnt have kids, and werent married, and didnt feel obligated to work out their issues because of it.
All fail.
The relationship aspect did. Or at the least changed. I believe its more of an obligation now. Or the same kind of familiar love your feel towards a sibling or parent.
i know what that's like man but just keep jamming. and maybe try writing stuff that isn't metal. I could never write metal to save my life but I'm not bad at doing heavy post-rock/ambient/shoegaze type shit. Just start experimenting man. I'm just in a really positive mood because I'm happy with the direction things are going in the band i'm in. It's a good feeling.
I hate the idea of love and a relationship in general. But if you get married and have a kid, I feel like you are obligated to making it work.
Dont get married if you cant, or arent willing to.
Your views of how the world works is so naive and has no basis in reality. Your views on what would be best for the children is laughable how wrong you are. I can't say I blame you when you aren't even intelligent enough to understand what is best for yourself.
Ill explain to you once again why you are wrong when it comes to children. I see so many people who try to hold a family together 'for the kids'. I'm honestly pretty wary of that whole approach; and here's why: Kids learn what relationships should be by watching those around them. Whatever relationships you have in front of them - that's probably what they are going to end up consciously or unconsciously seeking out in their own lives. And if you aren't happy experiencing it - then why would you essentially teach your kids that they should follow suit? I think it's far healthier to do what I am doing. When parents can teach their kids that it's OK to love someone but recognize that you aren't happy with that person as a partner; that they should seek out relationships that bring them a sense of personal fulfillment and contentment - I think that's a much better lesson for kids to internalize.
Perhsps your life would be better had your parents separated? Can't say I know much about their life, but it is pretty clear to me, and most people here, that your parents really did you a great injustice in your upbringing. Someone doesn't get as twisted in their head as you are, without some serious fucked up parenting. People oftentimes point at you and say 'How can you just choose to live your life like that! You're fucked in the head".... I don't though- I point at your parents and say "How dare you do this to your child. You never gave him a chance. You never gave him hope. And when he finally puts that gun in his mouth and pulls the trigger, you have no one to blame but yourself! How dare you people"... And I'll tell them that to their face at your funeral
Its not just my parents, but every single relationship around me and in the media. Its all been toxic. The relationships of my peers, and my relationship with Erica are the most strong in changing my views on love and relationships. She ruined me. And I will never look at love positively again.
My parents relationship isnt perfect, its true. But they werent abusive to me. They werent abusive to eachother. I dont blame them for what happened to my mindset at all. Theyre good people. Theyre just part of the greater whole. I blame the world around me as a whole.
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You subconsciously learned about relationships from your parents fucked up marriage. I'm not saying they abused you... What they did is conditioned you by giving you a model of how a fucked up relationship works (or doesn't work) to build your ideals on. They are 100% responsible for your beliefs! They gave you the first perfect example of a flawed marriage to lay the foundation. They are 100% responsible for your depression. Erica did nothing to help you in this downward spiral.... She only fulfilled the destiny that was put in motion by your parents. You had no chance with her, you were never shown what a healthy relationship is....
Erica isn't to blame. You aren't to blame. Your parents are the real animals here- they deserve all blame. And I'm serious with what I said before.... When you kill yourself, I hope someone tells your parents they are 100% to blame. Sure they will already feel like they are (because they are) but it would be nice for someone to reaffirm that for them... At your funeral preferably
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10/20 years from now when you're all miserable in your relationships and marriages, I hope you'll understand.
Ill explain to you once again why you are wrong when it comes to children. I see so many people who try to hold a family together 'for the kids'. I'm honestly pretty wary of that whole approach; and here's why: Kids learn what relationships should be by watching those around them. Whatever relationships you have in front of them - that's probably what they are going to end up consciously or unconsciously seeking out in their own lives. And if you aren't happy experiencing it - then why would you essentially teach your kids that they should follow suit? I think it's far healthier to do what I am doing. When parents can teach their kids that it's OK to love someone but recognize that you aren't happy with that person as a partner; that they should seek out relationships that bring them a sense of personal fulfillment and contentment - I think that's a much better lesson for kids to internalize.
Perhsps your life would be better had your parents separated? Can't say I know much about their life, but it is pretty clear to me, and most people here, that your parents really did you a great injustice in your upbringing. Someone doesn't get as twisted in their head as you are, without some serious fucked up parenting. People oftentimes point at you and say 'How can you just choose to live your life like that! You're fucked in the head".... I don't though- I point at your parents and say "How dare you do this to your child. You never gave him a chance. You never gave him hope. And when he finally puts that gun in his mouth and pulls the trigger, you have no one to blame but yourself! How dare you people"... And I'll tell them that to their face at your funeral
My parents relationship isnt perfect, its true. But they werent abusive to me. They werent abusive to eachother. I dont blame them for what happened to my mindset at all. Theyre good people. Theyre just part of the greater whole. I blame the world around me as a whole.
Erica isn't to blame. You aren't to blame. Your parents are the real animals here- they deserve all blame. And I'm serious with what I said before.... When you kill yourself, I hope someone tells your parents they are 100% to blame. Sure they will already feel like they are (because they are) but it would be nice for someone to reaffirm that for them... At your funeral preferably
they taught you all this bullshit. Everything you know about relationships came from them. They ARE TO BLAME.