WakeOfAshesPosts: 21,665destroyer of motherfuckers
It's weird we are all talking about our parents. On Monday I told my mom to fuck off and never call me again. It kinda sucks because I wish she gave a damn, but she's old and stuck in her ways. I'd be willing to swallow my pride for the sake of spending time with her in her last days, but when she actively disrespects my wife to my face I can't have any of that. She can die alone for all I care.
damn that's fucking shitty. I couldn't imagine having that kind of relationship with any of my parents
I mean there's a huge back story there which I wont get into... But her and I have a pretty good relationship but she misinterprets conversations she has with my wife, and then when I try and explain how she is completely off base in how she interpreted that conversation, she bad mouths her and tells me Im crazy for supporting my wife and trying to explain to her logic. I swear I think old age is rotting her brain. I'd like to not get hung up on that shit and let it go... But I mean I gotta side with my wife especially when my wife was right. so yeah... last thing I said to her was exactly "Fuck off. Dont' ever contact me again *click*"
damn that's fucking shitty. I couldn't imagine having that kind of relationship with any of my parents
My relationship with my mom has improved a lot since moving out. She's still immature, manipulative, and borderline disabled, but I can deal with it in small doses. I've found myself trying to talk to her about fucked up shit from my childhood sometimes that was partially her fault but she gets so emotional that she denies it and starts screaming. Fun stuff.
But I used to do the same back in high school but I wasn't in a mental state where I could be empathetic to her at all. I'd just call her out for what she was, making her issues worse and just breeding hostility 24/7
WakeOfAshesPosts: 21,665destroyer of motherfuckers
edited October 2014
I thought about calling my Dad and explaining to him the situation because he is indirectly involved here... And I thought maybe he could explain to her how fucking insane she is being. But I know my mom, she'd probably rather divorce him then admit she is wrong. So I mean... I guess I wont put that shit on him.
Sorry for ranting a bit. I've been stressed as fuck getting my shit together last minute to transfer a semester earlier than planned and I don't exactly talk about this shit often so I sort of seize the opportunity haha
I've found myself trying to talk to her about fucked up shit from my childhood sometimes that was partially her fault but she gets so emotional that she denies it and starts screaming. Fun stuff.
I gave up on that sort of shit a long time ago. Most of the time my mom still defends the shit she did like she was justified. Like get this...
When I was 5 I was playing and I broke something of hers. I dont remember what it was, but I didnt do it on purpose. So she says to me "What is your favorite toy" and since I am 5 I have no idea what is coming, nor do I know how to lie at that age so I say the newest toy I had just got the other day- A cool bag of marbles (we werent rich). Anyways she tells me to go get them so I do, and she grabs my hand, grabs the marbles out of my hand, pulls me to the back yard and has me sit down on the steps. She then proceeds to take a hammer and smashes every single one with a hammer one by one while I sit their crying with each one she destroys. I brought up how fucked up that was, and she says "well you broke something of mine so you needed to see how that felt". Bitch I was 5 you were a fucking adult. I mean jesus crhist. I can't imagine ever doing something so fucked up to my kids.
Eh me and my dad aren't really cool. I mean we are like he's a friend of mine. When he's not drinking he's alright, but I can't stand when he's on the sauce. If I had kids I would consider not bringing them around, but if he was sober I probably would. He's not a bad guy, he just is a totall asshole to me. Nothing was ever good enough, and he never tried to help me succeed in life like a parent should. It was always about him.
I have trouble understanding people wanting to live with their parents beyond schooling. As soon as I had the money I was out and I have an awssome family. To each his own ill deal with all of the bills as long as it means paving my own way.
You tryin to be a hero fool? You wanna see badass mother fucker?! I'll show ya a badass!!!
Yeah I spent time either living out of my car or couch surfing for a long time instead of staying with my parents when I was on my late teens. Not cuz I hate them or really even have argued much with them. I just wanted to be my own person and live as free as possible. Someone else's house, someone else's rules
It's especially odd to me to see dudes in their late teens and early 20s that can't drive and can't get around independently. I swept floors at a auto body shop the summer when I was 15 in order to buy a car from a junkyard to fix up. The day I turned 16, I got my license and already had my own car
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But I used to do the same back in high school but I wasn't in a mental state where I could be empathetic to her at all. I'd just call her out for what she was, making her issues worse and just breeding hostility 24/7
When I was 5 I was playing and I broke something of hers. I dont remember what it was, but I didnt do it on purpose. So she says to me "What is your favorite toy" and since I am 5 I have no idea what is coming, nor do I know how to lie at that age so I say the newest toy I had just got the other day- A cool bag of marbles (we werent rich). Anyways she tells me to go get them so I do, and she grabs my hand, grabs the marbles out of my hand, pulls me to the back yard and has me sit down on the steps. She then proceeds to take a hammer and smashes every single one with a hammer one by one while I sit their crying with each one she destroys. I brought up how fucked up that was, and she says "well you broke something of mine so you needed to see how that felt". Bitch I was 5