point is a lot of us have know alex for around 5 years....i consider a lot of these people almost like my own little family, and no matter what it is thats bothering someone we should be supportive rather then try and drag them down and belittle there problems
That's bullshit Rex. How old are you? I have to say I am really surprised to hear you say this because you've always seemed to me to act like one of my friends. And my friends growing up were absolutely supportive of me when some serious shit went down.... But if I went to those friends over some trivial bullshit like my mom calling me a fuckhead they would literally laugh at me, call me a bitch, and tell me to buck up. And you know what? I fucking needed that and appreciate them doing that for me. Yeah there are times when shit happens and it's nice to have friends there to get support from, but a good friend isnt going to just give you sympathy when it shouldnt be had. A good friend is going to call it like they see it and tell their friend to stop being a baby over trivial shit.
You are nothing like what I thought you were for the last couple years. totally weird. I just have a hard time picturing you giving your friend a hug when they came and told you that their mom called them a name. You just seem like the type to say "lol. grow a pair man" type.
You have to pick and choose when to be supportive and when to give them a hard time. I know somewhat more about alex and his past. I know when it has anything to do with depression or anxiety you need to be supportive, no matter how stupid it seems to you. The other day i had a buddy who was having anxiety problems and didn't wanna wait in line and i made fun of him..."aww you piss your pants buddy? you don't want to see any one you don't know today mister crybabies piss pants?" is what i told him...and he laughed...but then later on i talked to him about it and supported him. Told him i understood cause i could tell it was really bothering him. I don't have anything against you at all and for the most part totally respect your opinion and enjoy reading what you post, I myself as a child was called names by my parents. Iv been told by my dad that everything i did wasn't good enough since i took my first step. A parent calling you a fuck head may not be that big of a deal...but it can trigger something that is a big deal, and iv lately with people i don't know everything about taken the approach that i should be supportive of them if you see someone sad or down. You have no idea what a positive attitude towards someone can effect there day or even there lives.
And I'm glad you think it's a small thing, Wake. I absolutely despise comparing scars, but this isn't by any means the first time something like this has happened. This was just a "wtf" moment for me, when there's been physical abuse in the past in my life. Nothing sexual at all, but a lot of physical violence. And if I didn't care for my little sisters to have their parents around (because who am I to take them from them?), I'd probably be in jail for attempted manslaughter.
I don't know about you, but I don't consider it cool when your parent tries to break their son's arm in front of his friends to prove their power.
Thanks.
I dont want to compare scars nor was I ever saying you didnt have negative shit happen to you in the past. I only said that I didnt think this one instance wasnt that bad, but you just said that as well....
Why don't you just end your relationship with them? I've said it multiple times and I just dont get it. You're a grown ass man. If shit is bad then why carry on a false pretense with them that it isnt?
I won't be speaking with them nearly as much when I'm in NJ. The only reasons I come home are to see my dog, do laundry, shop for groceries, and get to work easily.
instead of letting it go.....like you said bianca should have....sorry didn't know everything was always someone else's fault...if there is one thing you do well its place blame on other people
I think you misunderstood. I would think you'd know me better then that now, so I just assumed you got my meaning. I was not blaming Bianca for a discussion/flame we just had, but saying she helped add the fuel to that fire ALONG with me. I am always up for a debate or a discussion about stuff I have experience in or an interest in. Have you ever seen me shy away from such things? Not likely.... I enjoy discussion and debate and if anyone takes the bait I will properly prove my side of the argument.
I didnt plan to discuss my life story. I didnt plan to have a 3 page flame talking about a trivial part of alex life. But she opened it up with her aggressive tone and I helped add lighter fluid to that fire. Really this shouldnt come as a surprise to you or anyone else.
instead of letting it go.....like you said bianca should have....sorry didn't know everything was always someone else's fault...if there is one thing you do well its place blame on other people
I think you misunderstood. I would think you'd know me better then that now, so I just assumed you got my meaning. I was not blaming Bianca for a discussion/flame we just had, but saying she helped add the fuel to that fire ALONG with me. I am always up for a debate or a discussion about stuff I have experience in or an interest in. Have you ever seen me shy away from such things? Not likely.... I enjoy discussion and debate and if anyone takes the bait I will properly prove my side of the argument.
I didnt plan to discuss my life story. I didnt plan to have a 3 page flame talking about a trivial part of alex life. But she opened it up with her aggressive tone and I helped add lighter fluid to that fire. Really this shouldnt come as a surprise to you or anyone else.
i get that, i just think if you tell someone that they should have let it go and stopped it there then you should look at your own actions and see if there was some point where you should have ended it you know?
And I'm glad you think it's a small thing, Wake. I absolutely despise comparing scars, but this isn't by any means the first time something like this has happened. This was just a "wtf" moment for me, when there's been physical abuse in the past in my life. Nothing sexual at all, but a lot of physical violence. And if I didn't care for my little sisters to have their parents around (because who am I to take them from them?), I'd probably be in jail for attempted manslaughter.
I don't know about you, but I don't consider it cool when your parent tries to break their son's arm in front of his friends to prove their power.
Thanks.
I dont want to compare scars nor was I ever saying you didnt have negative shit happen to you in the past. I only said that I didnt think this one instance wasnt that bad, but you just said that as well....
Why don't you just end your relationship with them? I've said it multiple times and I just dont get it. You're a grown ass man. If shit is bad then why carry on a false pretense with them that it isnt?
I won't be speaking with them nearly as much when I'm in NJ. The only reasons I come home are to see my dog, do laundry, shop for groceries, and get to work easily.
are you taking your dog to NJ? I mean basically your reasons for keeping contact with them now are your dog (I get that), laundry (thee-fiddy), groceries (im sure there is a store near your pad), and bus/gas money for work (1.50)? Seems like 5 dollars isnt really worth it. and if you can take your dog with you then even better.
idk... just seems like you should work on cutting of your relationship with them now. If your going to do it in 6 months (or whenever) then why not start trying to do it now? I mean if things are really that bad, then it is only for your benefit. know what I mean? I aint even playing devils advocate here. This is just legit advice. If you have a toxic relationship, then remove them from your life asap.
so while the interview went good today i saw the list she had of interviews...and there were like 8 other people after me :-L
i just don't have the belief i am charming enough to beat out 8 people lol...hopefully my resume speaks for it self...i need something to do lol im sick of sitting back on my savings and collecting from the gov.
You have to pick and choose when to be supportive and when to give them a hard time. I know somewhat more about alex and his past. I know when it has anything to do with depression or anxiety you need to be supportive, no matter how stupid it seems to you. The other day i had a buddy who was having anxiety problems and didn't wanna wait in line and i made fun of him..."aww you piss your pants buddy? you don't want to see any one you don't know today mister crybabies piss pants?" is what i told him...and he laughed...but then later on i talked to him about it and supported him. Told him i understood cause i could tell it was really bothering him. I don't have anything against you at all and for the most part totally respect your opinion and enjoy reading what you post, I myself as a child was called names by my parents. Iv been told by my dad that everything i did wasn't good enough since i took my first step. A parent calling you a fuck head may not be that big of a deal...but it can trigger something that is a big deal, and iv lately with people i don't know everything about taken the approach that i should be supportive of them if you see someone sad or down. You have no idea what a positive attitude towards someone can effect there day or even there lives.
okay. I can agree that you know Alex better than me, so perhaps knowing his past gives you better insight that this was a moment to be supportive.
It's nice to hear that my impression of you wasnt incorrect. You seemed like the type who would call a friend on bullshit when it needed to be said. I was a little surprised when I thought you were saying that wasnt the case.
Finally- I know names hurt. Look at my stories. My mom telling me that I am going to go to hell and she is going to go to heaven hurt. It greatly impacted my life. However there is a big difference between name calling a 7 years old and name calling a 22 or however old alex is. Im drawing a line in the sand- If you are 18 or over and your parents call you a name, you are old enough to shrug it off and not let it impact your life all that much. If my parents called me a name now I'd be like "lol. look who is talking. The person who likes to beat up little boys wants to call me a fuckhead. lol". but go ahead and post that it grinds your gears if it happens. that's what this thread is for. I dont have to agree with everything in this thread that grinds peoples gears.
so while the interview went good today i saw the list she had of interviews...and there were like 8 other people after me :-L
i just don't have the belief i am charming enough to beat out 8 people lol...hopefully my resume speaks for it self...i need something to do lol im sick of sitting back on my savings and collecting from the gov.
What job you going for sexy rexy? Have believe and trust in yourself little one
It was just a part time job at a coffee shop. I have 4+ years in customer service. Its not a big deal, I have a cash job i do on the side a couple times a week to pay my bills along with a very small unemployment check. I just want it so that i actually have extra money to do fun things )
lol @ Wake repeating his stories because he didnt get the response he wanted from them the first time and what you did wasnt a 'debate' it was you calling Alex a whiny bitch and me a cunt just because YOU do not know the backstory i guess you get defensive when you find out youre wrong or shouldnt have said something you could have expressed your opinion in a less hostile manner, but no, you were looking for a fight on this like Ape said, you were trying to get under my skin and jumped on the opportunity to write your god damn paragraphs of doom and your childhood stories [that no one gives a shit about] that in the end, are meaningless
eh yes and know. With my experience I know how to put on a show and talk to people, iv never had a problem having a conversation with anyone and hiding the fact that i am terrified on the inside )...i know i know...cribabiez piss pants right. The interview itself went well the conversation flowed good. I just feel like someone out of the 7-8 other people probably did a better job. but that is just me being my normal negative nancy self
It was just a part time job at a coffee shop. I have 4+ years in customer service. Its not a big deal, I have a cash job i do on the side a couple times a week to pay my bills along with a very small unemployment check. I just want it so that i actually have extra money to do fun things )
Good luck man You seem like a pretty motivated and hard working person so if this job doesn't work out, I'm sure something else will soon
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You have to pick and choose when to be supportive and when to give them a hard time. I know somewhat more about alex and his past. I know when it has anything to do with depression or anxiety you need to be supportive, no matter how stupid it seems to you. The other day i had a buddy who was having anxiety problems and didn't wanna wait in line and i made fun of him..."aww you piss your pants buddy? you don't want to see any one you don't know today mister crybabies piss pants?" is what i told him...and he laughed...but then later on i talked to him about it and supported him. Told him i understood cause i could tell it was really bothering him. I don't have anything against you at all and for the most part totally respect your opinion and enjoy reading what you post, I myself as a child was called names by my parents. Iv been told by my dad that everything i did wasn't good enough since i took my first step. A parent calling you a fuck head may not be that big of a deal...but it can trigger something that is a big deal, and iv lately with people i don't know everything about taken the approach that i should be supportive of them if you see someone sad or down. You have no idea what a positive attitude towards someone can effect there day or even there lives.
But ohhhh it feels so goooood
I didnt plan to discuss my life story. I didnt plan to have a 3 page flame talking about a trivial part of alex life. But she opened it up with her aggressive tone and I helped add lighter fluid to that fire. Really this shouldnt come as a surprise to you or anyone else.
were always here when you need support dawg
idk... just seems like you should work on cutting of your relationship with them now. If your going to do it in 6 months (or whenever) then why not start trying to do it now? I mean if things are really that bad, then it is only for your benefit. know what I mean? I aint even playing devils advocate here. This is just legit advice. If you have a toxic relationship, then remove them from your life asap.
so while the interview went good today i saw the list she had of interviews...and there were like 8 other people after me :-L
i just don't have the belief i am charming enough to beat out 8 people lol...hopefully my resume speaks for it self...i need something to do lol im sick of sitting back on my savings and collecting from the gov.
It's nice to hear that my impression of you wasnt incorrect. You seemed like the type who would call a friend on bullshit when it needed to be said. I was a little surprised when I thought you were saying that wasnt the case.
Finally- I know names hurt. Look at my stories. My mom telling me that I am going to go to hell and she is going to go to heaven hurt. It greatly impacted my life. However there is a big difference between name calling a 7 years old and name calling a 22 or however old alex is. Im drawing a line in the sand- If you are 18 or over and your parents call you a name, you are old enough to shrug it off and not let it impact your life all that much. If my parents called me a name now I'd be like "lol. look who is talking. The person who likes to beat up little boys wants to call me a fuckhead. lol". but go ahead and post that it grinds your gears if it happens. that's what this thread is for. I dont have to agree with everything in this thread that grinds peoples gears.
Have believe and trust in yourself little one
and what you did wasnt a 'debate'
it was you calling Alex a whiny bitch and me a cunt just because YOU do not know the backstory
i guess you get defensive when you find out youre wrong or shouldnt have said something
you could have expressed your opinion in a less hostile manner, but no, you were looking for a fight on this
like Ape said, you were trying to get under my skin and jumped on the opportunity to write your god damn paragraphs of doom and your childhood stories [that no one gives a shit about] that in the end, are meaningless
You seem like a pretty motivated and hard working person so if this job doesn't work out, I'm sure something else will soon