What's with the wtf flag? I'm not saying run and tell them mom is getting D on the side with a student, but it sounds like there is a lot going on and some tension in the house and kids pick up on that shit. They are gonna know something is up, especially if things escalate from where they are right now. Are you trying to hide it from them, are you going to be open and honest with them? Are you going to prepare them for any potential blow back from their mom's indescretions becoming public news, and possibly a criminal situation? How are they going to deal with it when it becomes breaking news at their school? If the proverbial shit is about to hit the fan, you may want to get them ready for some of the shit they will be dealing with in the future.
shit dawg, sorry i meant 'wtf' like agreeing wit u; like wtf am I gonna say to them....
This is gonna be a tough one, no doubt. Divorce is hard enough on kids, and this situation may get uglier with your wife's potentially pending legal situation and how public it gets. Going public with that info may not have been in the best interest of your kids. Any idea on if she is going to try to manipulate the kids in the same way she did to her friends on the phone? I guess you always have the tapes if she tries to twist the truth. I'd be as honest and straight forward with them as you can with the ugly details. About all you can do is sit them down, tell them you love them more than anything, you will always be there for them etc, but Mom and Dad aren't happy with each other, its not their fault but things are going to be changing. Just try to be calm and positive about it, and then take it from there based on how they react.
wanna hear something? today, the school board got an "anonymous" call with basic details as to the names and what was going on....and no I didn't use a cell phone...payphone at a Love's Truck Stop....
good job man. Stay strong... Remember this- Most important thing you need right now is custody. Sometimes it's good to compromise in divorce proceedings, but try and save that compromise for areas that dont involve the kids. The more amicable you can make it, the better for your pocketbook. Even if you are giving up thousands of shit that she claims she needs... so what. You will save more in the long run by not having your lawyer fight over it.
What's crazy is I regret calling it in in a way, because she's my wife and I love the shit out of her; i just wanted her to want me again, and after I saw proof late last night of her inquiring about that rental house on his block,
:-SS I worry that I went too far, even if she's a cheating twat...
I dont think you went too far man.
And I know exactly how you feel.... Maybe even more then you realize. I completely understand still loving the shit out of her and just wanting her to want you again. I get that. And you know what? She actually might start coming back to you because now that shit is starting to happen, she will go back to her rock for support. Your gonna have to be strong man. If you take her back and forgive her, she will never truly love you the way you want her too. It would just be buying you time with her until she goes onto something better.
As much as it sucks.... and it completely sucks... be strong, and go through with it. I dont know your whole situation, but I truly think you will be better off. And FYI - if you happen to take her back, I wouldnt blame you.
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also... I was wrong to mention the whole email thing. I was caught up in the moment because I wanted this to work out for you. Not that this can work out for you, because really what you want is your wife to have never cheated and never fell out of love with you. But since that aint happening, im just hoping you land in the best possible situation.
Divorce no matter what the circumstances is always sad in my humble opinion.
I don't know if you and I have ever really spoken before, and if we did it must be rare, but as a semi-new member, I want to extend my deepest gratitude to you and your kids. I'm truly sorry your wife turned out to be a sad human being. I feel like you could've gone further into fucking up her life, but you did the right thing by telling the school. Hell I'd even drop off an anonymous package in their mail containing the tapes as proof, just so that they could fire her ass on the spot. I hope you get through this without getting hurt anymore. You deserve better.
It's funny the curves life throws at you/us sometimes. Just goes to show you not to ever take anything for granted and to enjoy every happy moment because you never know what could happen.
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And I know exactly how you feel.... Maybe even more then you realize. I completely understand still loving the shit out of her and just wanting her to want you again. I get that. And you know what? She actually might start coming back to you because now that shit is starting to happen, she will go back to her rock for support. Your gonna have to be strong man. If you take her back and forgive her, she will never truly love you the way you want her too. It would just be buying you time with her until she goes onto something better.
As much as it sucks.... and it completely sucks... be strong, and go through with it. I dont know your whole situation, but I truly think you will be better off. And FYI - if you happen to take her back, I wouldnt blame you.
Divorce no matter what the circumstances is always sad in my humble opinion.
Hang in there man
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