we have an agreement. if she does something, i know about it. vice versa for me. and i'm a special case. i can deal with it. most dudes can't. what travis' wife has done is a violation. there's an ocean of difference between our situations.
I wasnt trying to imply that the two situations are the same.... I was only saying that I am surprised that from your standpoint you wouldnt have just been like "Dude... work this into an open relationship". But I guess what you are saying is you realize some dudes can't handle that.
Would you break up with your gf if you found out she slept with another dude, but didnt tell you about it? Or what would happen in this situation? Im asking because I find it interesting that having fore knowledge of a sexual act somehow diminishes the relevancy (or potential hurtfulness) of it.
i have a unique set of circumstances that led to the shape of my current situation. basically, we were just really good friends who decided we wanted a kid together. no bullshit, the first time we ever had sex was with the intent of conceiving a baby. we still sort of have a similar relationship now. we're friends first. we've even broken up a couple of times without any hard feelings. we're both comfortable with the fact that we're together for now, but it may not be forever. now, tbh, over time that seems less and less an option (or issue). the fact that we've participated in several orgies together kinda makes our relationship's makeup different to begin with. i dunno, i just think there's a level of understanding between me and my girlfriend about the sex stuff that's probably not healthy for most couples. if he wants to have if the way i got it, more power to him. but she has already done more of a disservice to their *friendship* before anything else by the way she dissed him in the recorded conversations. there's more than just sex going wrong in his relationship. she sounds like she legit wanted to hurt him. whether it was conscious or not, i'm not the one to ask, but it's there and that disregard for their life together, their children, and *the law* has put him in a frankly terrible situation. i can't imagine the amount of hurt he's going through. that bitch is lucky she didn't do that shit to me. i would've changed the locks and handed the computer and tapes over to child welfare before she even knew what was going on. what she did could eventually destroy the social lives and self esteem of those children. she deserves no sympathy or mercy in my estimation.
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You have an interesting set of circumstances. I'd like to say I would be able to be in a relationship such as yours, but I think I'd just get to jealous in the end. And Jealously will kill any relationship. Anyways, thanks for the write up. I enjoyed the insight.
my laptop is gonna die and the power cord is at a friends....thanks for the continued interest and support from ALL of you guys...I'll have more tomorrow....if you want to hear it...
ok so my wife is all "omg, im sorry, i wanna be with you and only you, and I stopped everything with this guy, and blah blah"....
So now she's been out with him twicw tis week until 8pm after school, and giving me these ridiculous excuses, and i find out that she's enrolled him in this kickboxing class and they are BOTH gonna do cardio kickboxing together! isnt that precious? last weekend, she had been yappin about joining a gym that was closer to her work, and now BOOM! and she gets crazy mad when I say things like "hey i think you're coming home way to late and the reasons you give are lame" I have email proof that she's signed him up. See, her cover has been frm the start that she has to Mentor him at school and that involves doing extra shit with him after hours...what horseshit right? so i had said that she drop him as a mentor immediately if she even wants to keep her job, and she was like "well I'll try" you have to understand that she is using this elaborate story that he's a bit of a hustler and he's threatened to report her if she doesn't do what he wants. and she's said to me tons of times/ways that she has to be really careful how she goes about dropping this kid out of her life. And I found out recently that she 'can't' quit mentoring him suddenly or the school wil get suspicious, and/or he'll get angry and bust her....So in her mind she has the perfect excuse to keep seeing him, and she assumes she can hide behind the whole "well, I HAVE to mentor him, Mike" bullshit...
ALSO, I have text message proof that she is helping this fucker's MOTHER pay some utility bills!!!! O M F G!!! I can't take anymore! you know what my fucking wife said when I confronted her about that? "Oh well, as _____'s mentor I have to help his family with utility assistance (through local programs) and I said if she couldn't get assistance, then I MIGHT be able to help her, but I was just saying that." BULLSHIT! the problem is that the messages i saw were my wife saying, "ok I'll be able to get to the bank after 8th tomorrow: and shit like that. I JUST saw these messages and they are form last night and earlier today, so it's not like my wife can act like she didn't help, and was just talking shit. I'll have to wait and see what happens...
MY WIFE HAS TOLD SO MANY MOUNTAINS AND LAYERS OF LIES, I DON'T THINK AT THIS POINT EVEN she CAN'T KEEP STRAIGHT WHAT SHE'S KYING ABOUT. I WOULD SAY THE CLOCK ON HER LIVING HERE IS WINDING DOWN.
No human, man nor woman should be subjected to this type of behavior from someone they love. I think it's time you cut your losses (if you feel there are any), take your kids and move on in life. There is obviously something wrong with this woman if she is going to be ruthless like this. That behavior just doesn't fly.
Sounds like the relationship is dead and there is no fixing it. Time to start figuring out your exit strategy and how to do it with the least damage to your kids.
The only problem with going public with the info is that it will reflect back onto his kids. Just because he can scorch the earth doesn't mean he should. No kids should have to go to school and have to face the public backlash of their mom being a student banging sex criminal.
The only problem with going public with the info is that it will reflect back onto his kids. Just because he can scorch the earth doesn't mean he should. No kids should have to go to school and have to face the public backlash of their mom being a student banging sex criminal.
If the kids come first before revenge, then this is 100% the approach, in my opinion.
I'm guessing he can use it against her to get the kids without making his kids hear "mother fucker" jokes for the next 10 years. Personally, I don't see the need for revenge enough to to put his kids through all the public ridicule. in this situation, I feel like he can either get revenge, or look out for what is best for his kids, but not both.
Also, "culturally unacceptable" is a better term than "sick" if we wanted to open that can of worms.
Sorry Travis but this is just fucking bullshit. If she seriously wanted to remain with you, keep the family together, keep her job and avoid all further accusations of improper misconduct she would SEVER ALL TIES with this fucker immediately. No fucking ifs buts or maybe Immediately No texting No mentoring No gym classes Fucking nothing Do you fucking hear me! IDGAF about making it look bad if she stops mentoring him It is easy to get out of She's fucking with you And continuing her happy little relationship with him too I'm sorry to say
I'm furious man - a week ago she was shitting bricks that she was about to be found out Now that the heat is off shes off doing fucking Thai Bo classes and having lattes with the Cunt I'm fucking punching my phone and yelling at it at the balls your wife has to take the piss outta you like this
She's doesn't seem to be stopping. Get a Lawyer and do what you got to do. I don't know if you a wealthy or not but if you are I would start with emptying the accounts and hiding the money etc.....
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I'm in!
So now she's been out with him twicw tis week until 8pm after school, and giving me these ridiculous excuses, and i find out that she's enrolled him in this kickboxing class and they are BOTH gonna do cardio kickboxing together! isnt that precious? last weekend, she had been yappin about joining a gym that was closer to her work, and now BOOM! and she gets crazy mad when I say things like "hey i think you're coming home way to late and the reasons you give are lame" I have email proof that she's signed him up. See, her cover has been frm the start that she has to Mentor him at school and that involves doing extra shit with him after hours...what horseshit right? so i had said that she drop him as a mentor immediately if she even wants to keep her job, and she was like "well I'll try"
you have to understand that she is using this elaborate story that he's a bit of a hustler and he's threatened to report her if she doesn't do what he wants. and she's said to me tons of times/ways that she has to be really careful how she goes about dropping this kid out of her life. And I found out recently that she 'can't' quit mentoring him suddenly or the school wil get suspicious, and/or he'll get angry and bust her....So in her mind she has the perfect excuse to keep seeing him, and she assumes she can hide behind the whole "well, I HAVE to mentor him, Mike" bullshit...
ALSO, I have text message proof that she is helping this fucker's MOTHER pay some utility bills!!!! O M F G!!! I can't take anymore! you know what my fucking wife said when I confronted her about that? "Oh well, as _____'s mentor I have to help his family with utility assistance (through local programs) and I said if she couldn't get assistance, then I MIGHT be able to help her, but I was just saying that." BULLSHIT! the problem is that the messages i saw were my wife saying, "ok I'll be able to get to the bank after 8th tomorrow: and shit like that. I JUST saw these messages and they are form last night and earlier today, so it's not like my wife can act like she didn't help, and was just talking shit. I'll have to wait and see what happens...
MY WIFE HAS TOLD SO MANY MOUNTAINS AND LAYERS OF LIES, I DON'T THINK AT THIS POINT EVEN she CAN'T KEEP STRAIGHT WHAT SHE'S KYING ABOUT. I WOULD SAY THE CLOCK ON HER LIVING HERE IS WINDING DOWN.
at this point I'd say its time to be done...
thats awful dude
Also, "culturally unacceptable" is a better term than "sick" if we wanted to open that can of worms.
If she seriously wanted to remain with you, keep the family together, keep her job and avoid all further accusations of improper misconduct she would SEVER ALL TIES with this fucker immediately.
No fucking ifs buts or maybe
Immediately
No texting
No mentoring
No gym classes
Fucking nothing
Do you fucking hear me!
IDGAF about making it look bad if she stops mentoring him
It is easy to get out of
She's fucking with you
And continuing her happy little relationship with him too I'm sorry to say
Now that the heat is off shes off doing fucking Thai Bo classes and having lattes with the Cunt
I'm fucking punching my phone and yelling at it at the balls your wife has to take the piss outta you like this