She has no filter, and extreme social anxieties, so she tends to turn to offensive humor to cope, and is just in general kinda awkward. And while it doesnt bother me or my more offensive friends, my more normie friends or sensitive (aka con) friends dont like it much.
And she was drinking yesterday and got emotional when my one friend got irritated, which caused the talk we had.
....has no filter, and social anxieties, tends to turn to offensive humor to cope....
Omg I think you just described me !
I was being serious and you heartless cunts LOL at me
Basically, I dont necessarily want to break up with my gf at the moment, but I want us to slow down. She wants to go over to eachothers places for Thanksgiving, and Im not ready for it.
What it comes down to is, she doesn't really have any drives, motivations, goals, or dreams and that is going to be an issue for me long term. I dont know if we have a long term future together, and I dont want to hurt her when the time comes. She also has a lot of mental health issues, and I dont want to be the reason she gives up on life or kills herself if I dump her after she truly falls in love with me.
Additionally, I'm starting to feel like I jumped into this relationship too fast because I was desperate to date again, and am now questioning if she really is the right person for me. There might be someone out there who is better for me. There might not. But I want us to take a step back so if I do find someone else, I don't feel as guilty about it.
TLDR; I'm not ready for how fast this relationship is going, Im worried her lack of drive will hurt us in the future, and Im wondering if there is someone better out there for me.
Also, you should consider that her lack of personal goals and ambitions might not be such a bad thing. I've dated girls that were "motivated" and it just ended up being either a competition or we never had time for each other. Sometimes it's good for you to have someone that's just there for you and supports you and your ambitions. It sounds kinda selfish, but some people would relish such an arrangement.
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I was being serious and you heartless cunts LOL at me
What it comes down to is, she doesn't really have any drives, motivations, goals, or dreams and that is going to be an issue for me long term. I dont know if we have a long term future together, and I dont want to hurt her when the time comes. She also has a lot of mental health issues, and I dont want to be the reason she gives up on life or kills herself if I dump her after she truly falls in love with me.
Additionally, I'm starting to feel like I jumped into this relationship too fast because I was desperate to date again, and am now questioning if she really is the right person for me. There might be someone out there who is better for me. There might not. But I want us to take a step back so if I do find someone else, I don't feel as guilty about it.
TLDR; I'm not ready for how fast this relationship is going, Im worried her lack of drive will hurt us in the future, and Im wondering if there is someone better out there for me.
So for now Im still going to work with her, but if I someday meet someone better I may pursue that.