WakeOfAshesPosts: 21,665destroyer of motherfuckers
Judy - I absolutely think you should have kids someday. If you want to have children, then you can't rob yourself of that joy. Having my children are without a doubt the greatest days of my life.
I don't know what your relationship is with Shane, but sometimes I am concerned by what you say. You say things that make me wonder "are these two really good for each other?". I typically try and not get really into those conversations because I dont know you, or your relationship. And maybe you do have a good relationship with Shane, but you come on here to vent your frustration. Sometimes things are said in the heat of the moment and you really dont feel that way. regardless... only you and Shane know what is up with your relationship. If you arent into Shane, or he isnt into you... then I dont think you should have a child with Shane. But if you guys are into each other, then you shouldnt settle on not having children.
Yes kids change your life. You have to forsake so much of yourself for these little people..... but they are so fucking cute it is worth it. A couple weeks ago I was tucking my 4 year old into bed and she grabs my face and makes me look in her eyes and she says "Daddy. You are the best dad ever". Totally melted my heart... made my year.
Shane just doesn't want a kid effecting his ability of going to concerts. He would be a great father. No one here knows Shane in person other than me and anyone who's been to Jaxx but no one has been w/ him for long periods of time.
WakeOfAshesPosts: 21,665destroyer of motherfuckers
I just think there are two questions you need answered. 1. Are you guys still love each other? 2. Will Shane have a child with you? I can't answer either of these two questions.
I am of the opinion that if the answer to either of those two questions is "no", then I would move on if I were you. I dont think you or shane should settle for either of these two questions.
Well, he needs to answer those questions not me. He has to take the extra steps to have a child. My doc already cleared me saying that I'm set to have children.
WakeOfAshesPosts: 21,665destroyer of motherfuckers
question #1 is a two person answer... You shouldnt have a child with Shane if you dont love him. I'm not saying you do or don't love him, just saying it is something you have not made clear.
To be honest, he won't answer any questions about having a kid. He's more concerned about the forums falling apart right now since he's been at the dentist the past 2 hours. He's still trying to catch up on stuff said on here.
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thats not much of a debate sweetie
i on the other hand are at least making some point that may or may not be true but at least i have points
I've been here since almost day 1 on the original mayhem forums.
I'm done.
lol. :-))
so fucking true.
and were dropping it dayna if you can
I don't know what your relationship is with Shane, but sometimes I am concerned by what you say. You say things that make me wonder "are these two really good for each other?". I typically try and not get really into those conversations because I dont know you, or your relationship. And maybe you do have a good relationship with Shane, but you come on here to vent your frustration. Sometimes things are said in the heat of the moment and you really dont feel that way. regardless... only you and Shane know what is up with your relationship. If you arent into Shane, or he isnt into you... then I dont think you should have a child with Shane. But if you guys are into each other, then you shouldnt settle on not having children.
Yes kids change your life. You have to forsake so much of yourself for these little people..... but they are so fucking cute it is worth it. A couple weeks ago I was tucking my 4 year old into bed and she grabs my face and makes me look in her eyes and she says "Daddy. You are the best dad ever". Totally melted my heart... made my year.
I am of the opinion that if the answer to either of those two questions is "no", then I would move on if I were you. I dont think you or shane should settle for either of these two questions.