It is incredibly refreshing to read that someone has the same problems as me and talks about it and gets intelligent responses instead of "quit bitching and suck it up".
WakeOfAshesPosts: 21,665destroyer of motherfuckers
I was just sayin' haha
And I get what Wake is trying to say but I don't judge people like that. I'm not going to explain all this shit in detail because I don't feel like it but just because someone fucked up once doesn't mesn they should be swept to the side...I'm not that kind of person. Even when it comes to friendships...I know enough people that have been in jail and on probation. Could be me too, you never know. Weed is illegal but that doesn't mean imma stop smoking it
I get what you are saying, and dont really disagree. Sometimes people have good excuses for things in their past, but those things should at least put up warning flags for you.
WakeOfAshesPosts: 21,665destroyer of motherfuckers
It is incredibly refreshing to read that someone has the same problems as me and talks about it and gets intelligent responses instead of "quit bitching and suck it up".
I hate reading in generalities. who you talking about? :-))
I totally see where you're coming from, Leah. I don't judge people at ALL by their past experiences, but every single person I have encountered that had a jail record (and not the one that I said doesn't count, lol) were never going anywhere in their lives.
Some of these people were seriously sweet individuals who I really cared about, but they really just had no direction in life. Sure, they don't deserve that shitty life, but it's not your problem. You have to realize they will only drag you down and keep you from your goals. A lot of people who do hard drugs, or have been to jail for long periods of time, have a record, etc. are people you will be taking care of for the rest of your life. They will never be able to get a proper career, or they won't have the motivation to make their life better.
People who are recovered drug addicts or street dwellers or gangsters who now do motivational speeches are VERY RARE. People who live these lifestyles have no motivation what so ever to change. Most of them end up mooching off other people in the same rut, or they end up on the streets. Lots of the people I hung out with or knew in high school were just like this, including my ex. I really do think if I ever see him again it will be on the street while he begs for money. It's sad, and some of these people who have this way of life CAN be good people, but you just can't let yourself be drug down by it, too. Even if they CAN be helped, it takes too much of your emotions, and too much time when you can be pursuing a wonderful life for yourself.
I'm sorry if I sound preachy or conceited at all. I'm just giving my two cents of my experiences with drug addicts and people who have been to jail for long periods of time and stuff. I don't want you to waste your time with someone who will drag you down.
Yeah, I know the drug addict stereotype. No one I know has been to jail for long periods of time....except one. But he landed himself in jail for fighting, he's now married to my friend Ashley and they seem to be doing fine with his two previous kids with his ex wife and their little toddler. I do get what you're saying an I set my limits. Also, if you're a pot smoker I don't give a shit. I also don't care if you do shrooms every so often lol
Oh yeah, pot smoking, pshhhhh. Shrooms aren't my thing, but I understand there ARE people out there who are successful in their lives, and can do shrooms responsibly. I for one am a huge fan of drinking, lol!
But the point I'm trying to make is that no matter how nice or sweet someone is and they have had problems with the law or hard drugs, you just need to stay friends. They could have everything in common with you, but there are seriously plenty of guys out there who would kill to have someone like you, and will have all the same interests as you as well. I wouldn't give up on dating, but you shouldn't take it seriously either. You really sound like you need a lot of time for you. Especially since you have lived with your previous S.O for what has seemed like a while.
Again, sorry if I sound preachy or sappy, lol! I just honestly think you are a beautiful person inside and out, and there are seriously plenty of guys who would treat you so right. You just haven't met them yet.
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Some of these people were seriously sweet individuals who I really cared about, but they really just had no direction in life. Sure, they don't deserve that shitty life, but it's not your problem. You have to realize they will only drag you down and keep you from your goals. A lot of people who do hard drugs, or have been to jail for long periods of time, have a record, etc. are people you will be taking care of for the rest of your life. They will never be able to get a proper career, or they won't have the motivation to make their life better.
People who are recovered drug addicts or street dwellers or gangsters who now do motivational speeches are VERY RARE. People who live these lifestyles have no motivation what so ever to change. Most of them end up mooching off other people in the same rut, or they end up on the streets. Lots of the people I hung out with or knew in high school were just like this, including my ex. I really do think if I ever see him again it will be on the street while he begs for money. It's sad, and some of these people who have this way of life CAN be good people, but you just can't let yourself be drug down by it, too. Even if they CAN be helped, it takes too much of your emotions, and too much time when you can be pursuing a wonderful life for yourself.
I'm sorry if I sound preachy or conceited at all. I'm just giving my two cents of my experiences with drug addicts and people who have been to jail for long periods of time and stuff. I don't want you to waste your time with someone who will drag you down.
But the point I'm trying to make is that no matter how nice or sweet someone is and they have had problems with the law or hard drugs, you just need to stay friends. They could have everything in common with you, but there are seriously plenty of guys out there who would kill to have someone like you, and will have all the same interests as you as well. I wouldn't give up on dating, but you shouldn't take it seriously either. You really sound like you need a lot of time for you. Especially since you have lived with your previous S.O for what has seemed like a while.
Again, sorry if I sound preachy or sappy, lol! I just honestly think you are a beautiful person inside and out, and there are seriously plenty of guys who would treat you so right. You just haven't met them yet.