You don't have to do anything to lose her. If you want to keep her though, you’re gonna have to take action.. She has internalized the distance and made it about her and her shortcomings now. Her perception is her reality. The clock is ticking, but you don’t get to know how much time is left on the clock. She will only tell you when it’s too late.
If you are in your head all day, it’s because the task you are doing is too easy and you’re are not being mentally challenged enough in the moment. Find more tasks to take on or ways to multi task your time. If you’re only good a physical labor then do physical labor, fuck it. But cut the shit with the “I can only do warehouse work” pity party. There are endless physical labor options; landscaping, furniture moving, appliance delivery, tire shops, lumber yards, roofing companies. Start a fucking lawn mowing company. Learn a trade. Women want to be provided for. Your value to her is directly linked to your ability to provide for her. She wants to build a life together and she is getting past the age where having a bum ass boyfriend is ok or acceptable. Good women push men to become better people. Keep telling her you are a failure and eventually she will start to believe you. What then? Depression is living in the past, anxiety is being worried about the future. You need to focus on the right now. Give your balls a tug.
Today you did something by throwing it all out there. Props for that. That was an action. Hopefully getting it off your chest helps a little. What action will you take tomorrow?
You’re in the club now Rex. In case no one else explained it to ya, you only get to have two feelings that matter from now on - too hot or too cold.Thats it. Feeling sad? Doesn’t matter, you have other people to take care of. Hate your job? Doesn’t matter, gotta provide. Even those feelings of incorrect temperature are temporary though. You get to keep your hoodie or jacket right up until someone forgets their shit or the weather changes. Then you don’t even get to feel temperature anymore.
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Get her pregnant. Then let nature do the work.
I have eliminated all distractions and simply just grind leads all day long. I almost never pick up my phone during my shift.
It has been the single most motivating thing that's ever happened to me.