Because if you approached a stranger with the immediate intent to have a lifelong serious relationship they are going to think your going to turn them into a lamp shade lol itd be like meeting a new friend for the first time and saying. Hey you seem cool let's be friends till we both die and only talk about serious deep things lmao
It's not a surprise you don't flirt. You don't fo much of anything. It's the way you view it which is interesting and dumb as shit. Also, you cannot just go up to someone and say, "we should date". It doesn't work like that and you'd either get laughed at, ignored, or recieve a sarcastic or rude response. The fact that you assume or expect (judging by what you said) they'd think, "ok, let's get to know each other now" is extremely delusional. Saying something like, "I think you're attractive and would like to get to know you better", would go over a lot smoother but your chances are still slim.
EXACTLY. WHY. I. DO. NOT. DATE. PEOPLE. ARE. NOT. INTERESTED. IN. JUST. GETTING. TO. KNOW. EACH. OTHER. ITS. ALWAYS. A. FUCKING. GAME. FIRST. FUCK. THAT.
Because if you approached a stranger with the immediate intent to have a lifelong serious relationship they are going to think your going to turn them into a lamp shade lol itd be like meeting a new friend for the first time and saying. Hey you seem cool let's be friends till we both die and only talk about serious deep things lmao
which is why I'd never consider dating a stranger. Friends first. Then date. That doesn't mean you flirt like a child. It just means you enter a position where you can get to know eachother first.
But when you talk to a stranger even to become friends for the first time it's almost always a casual meaningless conversation to get comfortable. You'd talk to a guy who you just met and might want to be friends with and explain to him all your deep philosophies? No. You'd spurt some bullshit first and get to that point. Flirting is the same thing but more fun, you just mad cuz you suck at it cuz no self esteem and girls don't do it back
I actually do share my philosophies with strangers, but whatever.
I don't find that "dating game" fun. And I'll leave it at that.
I actually was looking into taking some drugs that would completely eliminate my libido today. I don't have a strong sex drive, and next to no sexual urges. But I want to eliminate even the slightest desire of wanting a girlfriend. I probably wont take any, because I don't like the idea of taking drugs/relying on drugs to fix part of my life (same reason I refuse antidepressants) but I looked into them anyway.
You tell first time strangers you just meet that you hate girls, have no interest in ever dating again, and think the world is horrible and not worth living? Lol I'd think you were a pyscho
You tell first time strangers you just meet that you hate girls, have no interest in ever dating again, and think the world is horrible and not worth living? Lol I'd think you were a pyscho
Well I have. Except for the "I hate girls" part, because I don't hate girls.
Because if you approached a stranger with the immediate intent to have a lifelong serious relationship they are going to think your going to turn them into a lamp shade lol itd be like meeting a new friend for the first time and saying. Hey you seem cool let's be friends till we both die and only talk about serious deep things lmao
which is why I'd never consider dating a stranger. Friends first. Then date. That doesn't mean you flirt like a child. It just means you enter a position where you can get to know eachother first.
Well, flirting isn't child-like. And people are definitely into getting to know each other..but your approach is a disaster for both dating and friendship. Which is why you just view it as some game bs that's pointless. So you want the straight to the point approach which would be the equivalent of bug repellent for humans
Because if you approached a stranger with the immediate intent to have a lifelong serious relationship they are going to think your going to turn them into a lamp shade lol itd be like meeting a new friend for the first time and saying. Hey you seem cool let's be friends till we both die and only talk about serious deep things lmao
which is why I'd never consider dating a stranger. Friends first. Then date. That doesn't mean you flirt like a child. It just means you enter a position where you can get to know eachother first.
Which is why you just view it as some game bs that's pointless. So you want the straight to the point approach which would be the equivalent of bug repellent for humans
Its like we're starting to understand why I hate it all.
Because if you approached a stranger with the immediate intent to have a lifelong serious relationship they are going to think your going to turn them into a lamp shade lol itd be like meeting a new friend for the first time and saying. Hey you seem cool let's be friends till we both die and only talk about serious deep things lmao
which is why I'd never consider dating a stranger. Friends first. Then date. That doesn't mean you flirt like a child. It just means you enter a position where you can get to know eachother first.
Well, flirting isn't child-like.
In my mind "flirting" is like middle school behavior, starring at eachother from across the classroom hoping the other person will lock eyes with them. Or like ignorant and obnoxious text/Tinder behavior "hey gurl, you're fine".
Middle school "flirting" is bs like, "show me your boobs".."want to go to the dance with me?"..blah blah. And that "hey girl, you're fine" shit isn't what I'd call flirting. It's more of a way to get into dumb bitches pants. Unless they're easy, that shit doesn't work
Stranger: how bout this weather huh? It's so warm for December! Hopefully it stats this way
mc: life has no intrinsic meaning or value. With respect to the universe, the entire human species is insignificant, without purpose and unlikely to change in the totality of existence. There is no justification for life, but also no reason not to live. Those who claim to find meaning in their lives are either dishonest or deluded.
Stranger: ...
mc: now then are we going to be lifelong friends ? Otherwise I'd rather not continue with furthermore dialogue
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itd be like meeting a new friend for the first time and saying. Hey you seem cool let's be friends till we both die and only talk about serious deep things lmao
good fucking question
I don't find that "dating game" fun. And I'll leave it at that.
I actually was looking into taking some drugs that would completely eliminate my libido today. I don't have a strong sex drive, and next to no sexual urges. But I want to eliminate even the slightest desire of wanting a girlfriend. I probably wont take any, because I don't like the idea of taking drugs/relying on drugs to fix part of my life (same reason I refuse antidepressants) but I looked into them anyway.
In my mind "flirting" is like middle school behavior, starring at eachother from across the classroom hoping the other person will lock eyes with them. Or like ignorant and obnoxious text/Tinder behavior "hey gurl, you're fine".
No thanks.
Stranger: how bout this weather huh? It's so warm for December! Hopefully it stats this way
mc: life has no intrinsic meaning or value. With respect to the universe, the entire human species is insignificant, without purpose and unlikely to change in the totality of existence. There is no justification for life, but also no reason not to live. Those who claim to find meaning in their lives are either dishonest or deluded.
Stranger: ...
mc: now then are we going to be lifelong friends ? Otherwise I'd rather not continue with furthermore dialogue
>Mom begs me to take him out and do shit with him
>Go to Downtown Chicago tonight
>11 don't wanna go home yet
>Ask him what he wants to do
>Suggests Strip Club
>Sweet, another arab heathen
>You're 21 right?
>"Yes"
>Get to club
>Bouncer knows me I'm good, checks cousins I.D.
>"He ain't 21"
>Cousin has no fucking knowledge that he is not 21
>Also speaks no English
>Bouncer: "You're not 21."
>"Yes"
>Bouncer: "Do you know you're not 21?"
>"Yes"
>Bouncer: "Do you say yes to anything?"
>"Yes"
>Bouncer: "Your boy is a dumb ass bro."
>"Yes"
>Go home
>No titties
>Kinda irate