sh00t, you see one of my 'friends' on FB flip out me for that lame ass joke? She was butthurt as fuck...granted, 'coming out' is no doubt one of the biggest moments in someone's life. I think that ANYONE who has known me for more than a week KNOWS I am dedicated to stomping out hate, and actively support equality everyone, on and off facebook...My status update was a little insensitive, but she went too far with her rebuke...
I 'came out' as THE MOST OBVIOUS APRIL FOOL'S JOKE EVAR...some chick on my FB went off the deep end and called me a 'privileged heterosexual white male'...i was just bummed that after being friends with her for like 4 years, she didn't know me well enough to realize I was being silly, NOT belittling the gay community...I know that my actions and past behavior speak for me, and I was vexed; terribly vexed.... |)
My 'wife' is out on bail. I have the kids and we are all getting on with life. Fortunately there hasn't been too much more craziness...She got arrested in November and is charged with 2 counts criminal sexual assault...She is currently doing some therapy and AA meetings....For my childrens' sake, I really need her to get her shit together as best she can....There is some type of plea deal in the works, but I don't know the details, and what I DO know, I can't really discuss. She wrecked everyone's life (mine hers and our 3 kids) so now our 4 member family unit is moving on...I would eventually like to see her return to being a mother, because until last fall, she was an incredible mom. I couldn't have asked for a better woman to raise my children....They need her back, but she will have to probably do some prison time, so I am carrying on as though I will be a permanent single parent. Her mother and her entire family support me 100 percent, and help out a ton with the kids...The holidays were really hard on them, especially my daughter, who is 7...
my soon to be ex wife wants to come back and wants to stay married, but I can't take her back. Not out of a need or desire to 'punish' her, but simply because of all the abuse and pain she dealt me from Sept. to Nov. last year...She really damaged me emotionally, and pushed me too hard and too far away to ever come back...She beat the desire out of me to ever try to work on our marriage...I have filed for divorce, but that is a slow process...
I have let go of most of the anger and hate, and am shocked that I was able to to so as quickly as I did...I think a lot of it has to do with the fact that I was/am raising our kids alone; I prolly didn't have time to dwell on some things....I am still hurt, and feel totally betrayed, but it is really nice to be free of her physically, emotionally, and financially. (though our income has been cut by 65% due to her actions).
Sorry to ramble, just had to get that out to you who are still interested... And now a short Q and A session...........MT
My 'wife' is out on bail. I have the kids and we are all getting on with life. Fortunately there hasn't been too much more craziness...She got arrested in November and is charged with 2 counts criminal sexual assault...She is currently doing some therapy and AA meetings....For my childrens' sake, I really need her to get her shit together as best she can....There is some type of plea deal in the works, but I don't know the details, and what I DO know, I can't really discuss. She wrecked everyone's life (mine hers and our 3 kids) so now our 4 member family unit is moving on...I would eventually like to see her return to being a mother, because until last fall, she was an incredible mom. I couldn't have asked for a better woman to raise my children....They need her back, but she will have to probably do some prison time, so I am carrying on as though I will be a permanent single parent. Her mother and her entire family support me 100 percent, and help out a ton with the kids...The holidays were really hard on them, especially my daughter, who is 7...
my soon to be ex wife wants to come back and wants to stay married, but I can't take her back. Not out of a need or desire to 'punish' her, but simply because of all the abuse and pain she dealt me from Sept. to Nov. last year...She really damaged me emotionally, and pushed me too hard and too far away to ever come back...She beat the desire out of me to ever try to work on our marriage...I have filed for divorce, but that is a slow process...
I have let go of most of the anger and hate, and am shocked that I was able to to so as quickly as I did...I think a lot of it has to do with the fact that I was/am raising our kids alone; I prolly didn't have time to dwell on some things....I am still hurt, and feel totally betrayed, but it is really nice to be free of her physically, emotionally, and financially. (though our income has been cut by 65% due to her actions).
Sorry to ramble, just had to get that out to you who are still interested... And now a short Q and A session...........MT
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She wrecked everyone's life (mine hers and our 3 kids) so now our 4 member family unit is moving on...I would eventually like to see her return to being a mother, because until last fall, she was an incredible mom. I couldn't have asked for a better woman to raise my children....They need her back, but she will have to probably do some prison time, so I am carrying on as though I will be a permanent single parent. Her mother and her entire family support me 100 percent, and help out a ton with the kids...The holidays were really hard on them, especially my daughter, who is 7...
my soon to be ex wife wants to come back and wants to stay married, but I can't take her back. Not out of a need or desire to 'punish' her, but simply because of all the abuse and pain she dealt me from Sept. to Nov. last year...She really damaged me emotionally, and pushed me too hard and too far away to ever come back...She beat the desire out of me to ever try to work on our marriage...I have filed for divorce, but that is a slow process...
I have let go of most of the anger and hate, and am shocked that I was able to to so as quickly as I did...I think a lot of it has to do with the fact that I was/am raising our kids alone; I prolly didn't have time to dwell on some things....I am still hurt, and feel totally betrayed, but it is really nice to be free of her physically, emotionally, and financially. (though our income has been cut by 65% due to her actions).
Sorry to ramble, just had to get that out to you who are still interested...
And now a short Q and A session...........MT