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should i get involved?
My bro and his wife have had maritial issues lately. My brother sent an email to the family saying his marriage is over, he's found someone else, he's still living with his wife until he figures out the next step. when he got home from work yesterday, the police were waiting for him with a restraining order forbidding him from going into his own house. Looks like things are going to get uglier, and the way everything works, she's may get the house. thats where my involvement might come in. This house has been in the family for 100 years. My grandfather rebuilt it himself back in the 50's. Before he died he told me he wanted me to have the house. My brother pushed the issue after he passed and got the house. i never fought it because family got it. Should i get involved, fight the bytch, and make sure the house stays in the family?
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I guess what i should do is get my brother to not give up the house to her. help him fight it
Still kinda sad.
genetically guys are hunters- When they are single they are hungry for the urge to mate, and when they have won that conquest their natural tendency is to want to put that conquest on the wall and head out for new game. Women however are genetically looking for someone with good genetic traits to pass down to her children. She is looking for security, someone to make a nest with, and someone who will treat her as a princess.
So the root of the problem is this- Guy's marry women because they know what a woman needs (the nesting instinct) and they think they can ignore their genetic hunting needs. I'm sure all guys who get married are genuine in this belief. Problem is after marriage it is so damn hard to shower your woman with the APPRECIATION she needs. As much as your lady needs food and water, she's gotta have a shit load of complements and all the little shit the dude did to win her in the first place. The woman on the other hand starts turning sour on the dude because she isnt getting the appreciation she had grown to expect. She gets married to this dude and then all the cute notes stop, flowers stop meaning anything, and he never does anything to make her feel like he really loves her. He just wants to work, eat, and fuck and it hurts.... So they drift apart. They didnt feed their relationship, didnt work at it....
Some dudes and ladies are better at recognizing these relationship pitfalls. Others are just willing to settle for a life of no love. It's hard to not let the fire burn out in a relationship.... I think it is unfortunate that your brothers marriage is over, and I think it is even more unfortunate that he thinks he has found someone new and thinks this someone new will be any different then what he already has. He is just starting the cycle over again.... He doesnt have a new girlfriend, he has a new future ex-wife.
1. there as been a significant amount of time of marriage where the kids have grown to think of the step father as dad. He meets this with 12 years of marriage.
2. she is not receiving support from the biological father already.
You know that in most states, even if you dont get married... if you live with someone long enough then it is legally treated as a marriage when the relationship ends?