*siiiigh* If he didn't want to be with me, I wanted him to find someone better and to be happy. And that just led, for me, to have no desire other then to stay single for years and years. Make sense? <_>
*siiiigh* If he didn't want to be with me, I wanted him to find someone better and to be happy. And that just led, for me, to have no desire other then to stay single for years and years. Make sense? <_>
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I do wish you two much luck and much happiness.
To echo Bianca's comment though - In general I am a firm believer in "Once a relationship ends, NEVER get back together with them because it will end in exactly the same way it ended last time". Relationships are such a fragile thing, and often times the hurt/trust issues that come up during a breakup can never completely be mended. Most of the time, people get back together because they realize that the person is better then nothing. And that is just fucking wrong, no one deserves that (especially you Leah).
My comments are really just in general sort of ideas. Every situation is different, and every situation needs to be evaluated to see if it could fall victim to this generality. I like you Leah, so I hope that you raise about the relationship pitfall I am naming. I really do hope you two can make it work this time.
I believe there's a bunch of reasons for breaking up and getting back together. There's been cases when people got back together for stupid reasons, because of kids, to try again, because you realize there is no one else in the world you want to be with, ect. There's also the case you're talking about, which actually happens often and it shouldn't. I don't believe in the whole "if you break up, never get back with that person cuz it'll end up the same/never work out" type of deal. I know a lot of relationships that have lasted many years and those people broke up at least once. You can work through trust issues even if that takes years. You may never get 100% trust from someone if they have bad enough trust issues from past experiences though. But if you love someone enough you'll go through hell and back for that person. You're always going to have issues, disagreements, arguments, and stupid fights over nothing with whoever you're with. The probabaly will never completely go away either, you just have to learn how to deal with it in the best way and try and change some things that are needed.
Relationships are complicated as shit and always will be. You just have to find the right person for you. I feel that I have and I've felt that way for quite a while. I also believe that everything you go through together in a relationship makes ya'll stronger, closer, and better as a whole. In my opinion that can include the occasional break up. What if a person isn't ready to settle down and be with that one person from then on out, but want to be with them in the end? What if both aren't ready to settle, go off, dp different things, get back together years later and end up getting married? There's always exceptions to what you believe is true, even though I don't believe in it.
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To echo Bianca's comment though - In general I am a firm believer in "Once a relationship ends, NEVER get back together with them because it will end in exactly the same way it ended last time". Relationships are such a fragile thing, and often times the hurt/trust issues that come up during a breakup can never completely be mended. Most of the time, people get back together because they realize that the person is better then nothing. And that is just fucking wrong, no one deserves that (especially you Leah).
My comments are really just in general sort of ideas. Every situation is different, and every situation needs to be evaluated to see if it could fall victim to this generality. I like you Leah, so I hope that you raise about the relationship pitfall I am naming. I really do hope you two can make it work this time.
Relationships are complicated as shit and always will be. You just have to find the right person for you. I feel that I have and I've felt that way for quite a while. I also believe that everything you go through together in a relationship makes ya'll stronger, closer, and better as a whole. In my opinion that can include the occasional break up. What if a person isn't ready to settle down and be with that one person from then on out, but want to be with them in the end? What if both aren't ready to settle, go off, dp different things, get back together years later and end up getting married? There's always exceptions to what you believe is true, even though I don't believe in it.
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ok miss leah, will i ever get laid? look into your crystal ball please :-D