Like I can talk to girls about a lot of things. I have no problem approaching them and talking about music, or movies, or games, or anime. Basically just like any of my dude friends.
I cannot for the life of me hit on girls, flirt with them, ask them out, etc. I always feel like its inappropriate to do so, awkward doing so, hate being rejected and I've been rejected a lot, like they're not interested anyways so what's the point?, AND that it wouldnt work out long-term anyways so what's the point?
Like I can talk to girls about a lot of things. I have no problem approaching them and talking about music, or movies, or games, or anime. Basically just like any of my dude friends.
I cannot for the life of me hit on girls, flirt with them, ask them out, etc. I always feel like its inappropriate to do so, awkward doing so, hate being rejected and I've been rejected a lot, like they're not interested anyways so what's the point?, AND that it wouldnt work out long-term anyways so what's the point?
And there is your issue. You have to flirt by not flirting, in a sense. Of course you make the conversation playful to an extent but treating them like jus a normal human being has a higher success rate. My girl said part of the reason she was so drawn to me the first time we chilled was she legitimately couldn't tell if I liked her like that or if I jus wanted to be friends. And she said that was a huge turn on because everyone is always thirsty and immediately all over her and trying too hard. Said I was completely different and by time I did make a move it took her by complete surprise and so it was that much more effective. You put yourself in control of the situation by doin this cause you flip the script. Instead of immediately knowin "Okay, he wants me, do I give him what he wants?" It turns into "What is he thinkin? Is he even interested?" And it turns on that "chase" switch in their heads.
All you have to do is be yourself man. You put too much pressure on the situation and it spunds like its causing anxiety. Thats why you doubt yourself so much im sure.
Like I can talk to girls about a lot of things. I have no problem approaching them and talking about music, or movies, or games, or anime. Basically just like any of my dude friends.
I cannot for the life of me hit on girls, flirt with them, ask them out, etc. I always feel like its inappropriate to do so, awkward doing so, hate being rejected and I've been rejected a lot, like they're not interested anyways so what's the point?, AND that it wouldnt work out long-term anyways so what's the point?
And there is your issue. You have to flirt by not flirting, in a sense. Of course you make the conversation playful to an extent but treating them like jus a normal human being has a higher success rate. My girl said part of the reason she was so drawn to me the first time we chilled was she legitimately couldn't tell if I liked her like that or if I jus wanted to be friends. And she said that was a huge turn on because everyone is always thirsty and immediately all over her and trying too hard. Said I was completely different and by time I did make a move it took her by complete surprise and so it was that much more effective. You put yourself in control of the situation by doin this cause you flip the script. Instead of immediately knowin "Okay, he wants me, do I give him what he wants?" It turns into "What is he thinkin? Is he even interested?" And it turns on that "chase" switch in their heads.
Worked for you. For me it gets me friendzoned. Every. Time.
All you have to do is be yourself man. You put too much pressure on the situation and it spunds like its causing anxiety. Thats why you doubt yourself so much im sure.
Lol I am myself. Yet people still wonder how I'm a single virgin nerd. Maybe its because thats who I am, and who I am doesnt attract women.
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Im scared of sex and intimacy.
I cannot for the life of me hit on girls, flirt with them, ask them out, etc. I always feel like its inappropriate to do so, awkward doing so, hate being rejected and I've been rejected a lot, like they're not interested anyways so what's the point?, AND that it wouldnt work out long-term anyways so what's the point?