After this 3 1/2 hour long, completely bs conversation I've had with Chris. I'm 100% certain I am in a toxic "relationship." Now I say it like that because I haven't wanted to be in a relationship with him for a while. But he's said some shit like "I know you're not this stupid," I call him out on it and he tries to claim he never said exactly what he just said. That I just made it up in my own head like I'm "hearing what I want to hear." Every time I tell him I don't want to be with him in a relationship anymore, I get the same response every time. "Well I want to be with you and I know deep down you love me and don't want to be with anyone else." Pretty sure this is narcissistic behavior but I'm not 100%
True. But this is really just nuts to me. I know exactly what I just heard you say 2 seconds ago, but that's not what you said? Then there's the times when I 100% know he's had alcohol (for example contents in a cup that I smell/taste for confirmation) and he'll just tell me he hasn't had any. Just acts like I'm nuts for even thinking that he's had any that day and his word should be taken as truth. It's almost as though he's doing it all this way on purpose to actually make me crazy
Well like a whole fleet of cops took him away today with him eventually being transported to a VA hospital. He called their suicide hotline and was on the phone with them for an hour before abruptly ending the call pretty much. He told me all day he hadn't consumed any alcohol (which I knew was a lie because I always know) but he basically was trashed when they took him. Idk how long he'll be gone. Days? A week? It's all a mystery. I'm just glad he actually went because I didn't think he was going to go.
lol unless he meant it like one of my favorite quotes from Parks and Rec when Leslie and Anne were drunk arguing.
Anne: you called me a stupid jerk!
Leslie: I didn't call you a stupid jerk. I said you were being stupid and acting like a jerk
I wish this was it, but unfortunately no. It isn't the first time he's pulled shit like that in the last 2-3 months either. Plus the blatantly lying to my face about drinking and hiding the alcohol he buys (which he's got increasingly better at doing the last 3 weeks). If being taken to a local hospital then transported to the VA hospital in Pittsburgh doesn't help him, that's it. There's nothing else I can do and I can't subject myself nor anyone else to his bs anymore.
lol unless he meant it like one of my favorite quotes from Parks and Rec when Leslie and Anne were drunk arguing.
Anne: you called me a stupid jerk!
Leslie: I didn't call you a stupid jerk. I said you were being stupid and acting like a jerk
I wish this was it, but unfortunately no. It isn't the first time he's pulled shit like that in the last 2-3 months either. Plus the blatantly lying to my face about drinking and hiding the alcohol he buys (which he's got increasingly better at doing the last 3 weeks). If being taken to a local hospital then transported to the VA hospital in Pittsburgh doesn't help him, that's it. There's nothing else I can do and I can't subject myself nor anyone else to his bs anymore.
Not that it makes it any better but he’s probably lying to you because he’s embarrassed about his disease (alcoholism). He could be lying because he is disrespectful, but when you’re addicted to stuff, sometimes it makes it easier to hide than to hope those that love you will accept and help
He hasn't tried to hide it in 5 years until the last 1-2 months. Even when he started again in June he wasn't trying to hide it. Not only that, hiding it and lying just makes it worse because I know when he's had it anyway. I know exactly how he is down to how he talks to me/others when he's even had one drink. Plus, I can also smell it. If I say something and he doesn't want to admit it, I'm just paranoid and it must all be in my head. If he says something insulting to me and I point it out to him right after, he never said it and I made it up. If I get mad because of something he said/did, he doesn't understand why I'm mad at all. Because, to him, he hasn't done anything wrong to make me mad.
Idk wtf his problem is but maybe he can figure it out through counseling. He uses alcohol as a medication/coping mechanism for whatever bs is going on in his head. But that's no excuse to gaslight me and whatever tf else. Because that's bs
Not that I know this guy at all, but just based off reading this, I'm gonna say it's prolly very unlikely he ever improves. This sounds a lot like my alcoholic cousin who's been to rehab a couple times and kept saying she's getting better, but has been lying every time. Thankfully I don't ever have to deal with her but that sounds awful Leah. Sorry to hear you're going through it. I hope things improve for you.
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Anne: you called me a stupid jerk!
Leslie: I didn't call you a stupid jerk. I said you were being stupid and acting like a jerk
Idk wtf his problem is but maybe he can figure it out through counseling. He uses alcohol as a medication/coping mechanism for whatever bs is going on in his head. But that's no excuse to gaslight me and whatever tf else. Because that's bs