He's had a thing for me since high school and we've been friends for 10-11 years. He thinks we're pefect for each other. I would like for him to accept that nothing besides friends will ever happen. But I see us having this same shit conversation multiple times a year
Even though your turning him down, your language seems a little soft (well I don't know,.doesn't look good should be more like... Dude, fucking no) Be very clear and direct. Go full bitch mode if you need to.
I've already gone that route before multiple times. Which was the point of my original post. No one accepts any kind of no I give them. They just keep on tryin'
The trailer for Ender's Game doesn't look too bad.
Ive been nerdgasming over it since yesterday. I can't help but have insanely high expectations but I'm trying to condition myself to the fact it won't be exactly like the book.
I've already gone that route before multiple times. Which was the point of my original post. No one accepts any kind of no I give them. They just keep on tryin'
You think it might help if you just stop talking to him entirely and cut out any communication for the time being?
I don't know what I want/ where I want to be in life and that's a reason I was considering leaving to go to community college to save money and maybe find myself as a person... And I openly admitted to being suicidal/ having a lot of these thoughts (however you put it) this year. Music and lacrosse were the only thing keeping me motivated. My grades have suffered as a result. I felt all of my friends were leaving me since we all go to different schools. That's the gist of it
Some of my teammates took me outside to talk and just listen. It was nice to have a shoulder to cry on.
I personally believe the suicidal feelings you are having is perfectly normal for your age. I don't say this as any form of trying to belittle your feelings, however I say this to offer hope that these feelings will absolutely go away in time.
Additionally I do have some actual advice which may help these feelings go away sooner rather than latter. Before I give this advice, I want to preface this as saying I am no expert and this is only something that helped me deal with severe depression in my late teens, early twenties. The advice is this - Force yourself to get some new hobbies. Join a club, or take some lessons, or force yourself to get into a new environment of something that even casually interests you. This isnt something you need to devote your life too, but just something for you to get active and learn more about the world. Perhaps you will hate it, and if you do then that just means you need to move onto a different activity. There are a billion different things you could try
different types of dancing, instrument lessons in a group setting (dont do one-on-one), rock climbing, pottery making, art classes, learn Brazilian Jujutsu, join "the fucking bike club". There are an endless number of things you could explore. Im just suggesting you try something new and get out there, and this change of scenery will likely help lesson the hurt these feelings are giving you.
Alternatively seek medical help. A doctor will surely get you on some medication to trick you into feeling happy. I'm personally not a fan of this method as I feel the one I outlined above works just as well, and also helps you grow as a person and see more of the world.
Speaking of which when I was going through the screening I told the worker lady that I had pericarditis last year, or a heart infection, but it's gone now. She looked confused and said something in her thick as fuck spanish accent and wrote something down.
When I got to the donation area the woman looked at my form and was like "wait... you had congestive heart failure?" to which I told her that it was pericarditis, not fucking heart failure.
Do I honestly look tubby enough that I had congestive heart failure at 17? Fuck.
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Additionally I do have some actual advice which may help these feelings go away sooner rather than latter. Before I give this advice, I want to preface this as saying I am no expert and this is only something that helped me deal with severe depression in my late teens, early twenties. The advice is this - Force yourself to get some new hobbies. Join a club, or take some lessons, or force yourself to get into a new environment of something that even casually interests you. This isnt something you need to devote your life too, but just something for you to get active and learn more about the world. Perhaps you will hate it, and if you do then that just means you need to move onto a different activity. There are a billion different things you could try
different types of dancing, instrument lessons in a group setting (dont do one-on-one), rock climbing, pottery making, art classes, learn Brazilian Jujutsu, join "the fucking bike club". There are an endless number of things you could explore. Im just suggesting you try something new and get out there, and this change of scenery will likely help lesson the hurt these feelings are giving you.
Alternatively seek medical help. A doctor will surely get you on some medication to trick you into feeling happy. I'm personally not a fan of this method as I feel the one I outlined above works just as well, and also helps you grow as a person and see more of the world.
TL;DR - Hang in there man
When I got to the donation area the woman looked at my form and was like "wait... you had congestive heart failure?" to which I told her that it was pericarditis, not fucking heart failure.
Do I honestly look tubby enough that I had congestive heart failure at 17? Fuck.
For real?