how long has it been since you were in college wake?
I graduated in 2000. I understand college costs have increased since then, however there are still many schools out there that offer a very reasonable price. If you live in NY, the U of Buffalo is an excellent state school that is very affordable to all.
Dont you dare bring up my sister. That had nothing to do with them trying to give me anything i needed. It started at birth. The only overprotectivness they exhibited was with riding in others peoples cars. You know whats unfortunate? That you think its ok to make assumptions about someones life when you know literally nothing about it. My father works his ass off to make sure i get good quality in every aspect of my life. You forget that i did hold jobs when i wanted to buy things for myself that were essential. As for college, dont be mad that they could afford to pay my way as an undergrad and you had to do it yourself. The way i see it, youre just a bitter old shit who cant stand to see younger people have better than you did.
Don't tell me what to do. I'll mention your sister all I want, as it was pertinent to the conversation. It's not like I was poking fun at her death. If you'd not like to have conversations like this, then don't make flippant comments to me.
I am actually not bitter that I didnt live a privileged life like you. I actually feel that one of the reasons why my grades were so good, and why I understood the material more then my classmates, is because I was paying for it. 80+% of kids I went to college with were driving beamers, had their schooling paid, and never put in the time the classes required. They just showed up and hoped blessing the class with their presence would get them an A. It didnt by the way. So no... I am not bitter that you have everything handed to you and I didnt. On the contrary I think going the route I did in life taught me work ethic and made me value my education more. And that is all I was saying.....
I am not special. You could do what I did as well, and your education would mean more to you (I guarantee it). Unfortunately you wont learn that lesson about what you really could accomplish if you want it bad enough.
It's not easy to be fully indenpendent and go to school at the same time. It's damn near impossible if you want good grades. I'm glad my dad can help to out with the amount he does. Yes, I would love to be completely independent from him, but its just not feasable.
I did it. 4.0. Just need to be fragile, and thrifty. Lots of people do this all the time. I am not special.
My sisters death had NOTHING to do with anything. You just love to bring it up. I value my education immensely and get great grades! What the fuck are you talking about. See, just making assumptions. Take daynas advice, im telling you. And whether or not you want to admit it, its clear to everyone who reads what youre saying, youre so upset that people younger than you have a better life that you did.
Well, I get stressed very easily and my dad knows this so he would rather ell me so I can focus on grades than on grades, housing, tuition, mental health. So, not all of us are built that way or want to be built that way. Maybe it's better in the long run for work ethnic, but I'm focused on graduating right now, not other shit.
My dad did something for me with college that I intend to mirror with any offspring I have. I went to school full time and then went directly to work for however many hours were left in the work day plus any overtime Monday thru Friday. I put a certain percebtage of each paycheck to the side to never be touched. My dad required a certain amount of the leftover money to go to my college tuition/books/misc. When I graduated, he gave me an envelope with every dollar I thought was going towards bills. My gift for graduating was he was paying for my education and I was to use the money I unknowingly saved to begin my post college life for expenses that come with moving out and yadda yadda.
Maybe its just me but I value that he did that for me.
Sometimes the reasonable schools don't have the degree you want.
You make an excellent point, and I dont disagree. Especially considering the degree you are trying to get. I wouldnt ever recommend anyone to try and get the degree you are going for on their own. Realistically speaking, you have the odds really stacked against you for getting a decent paying job out of college. I dont say that to be mean. Anyways when there is less practical-ness to a degree, I would think the parents were supporting this effort. Let me just be clear- I am not saying there is no value in degrees such as yours, but that it likely wont pay you the sort of dividends that justifies the expense of college. Maybe it will... but you are taking on a lot more risk.
My dad did something for me with college that I intend to mirror with any offspring I have. I went to school full time and then went directly to work for however many hours were left in the work day plus any overtime Monday thru Friday. I put a certain percebtage of each paycheck to the side to never be touched. My dad required a certain amount of the leftover money to go to my college tuition/books/misc. When I graduated, he gave me an envelope with every dollar I thought was going towards bills. My gift for graduating was he was paying for my education and I was to use the money I unknowingly saved to begin my post college life for expenses that come with moving out and yadda yadda.
Maybe its just me but I value that he did that for me.
=D> This is awesome and your dad sounds awesome. I plan on implementing a very similar thing for my children. They arent going to have a free ride, but I will give them more support then I had.
Sometimes the reasonable schools don't have the degree you want.
You make an excellent point, and I dont disagree. Especially considering the degree you are trying to get. I wouldnt ever recommend anyone to try and get the degree you are going for on their own. Realistically speaking, you have the odds really stacked against you for getting a decent paying job out of college. I dont say that to be mean. Anyways when there is less practical-ness to a degree, I would think the parents were supporting this effort. Let me just be clear- I am not saying there is no value in degrees such as yours, but that it likely wont pay you the sort of dividends that justifies the expense of college. Maybe it will... but you are taking on a lot more risk.
Yes, I am taking on a risk for studying something I enjoy, but my parents raised me to to be concerned about financial things, to put happiness first, then money. I'm enjoying what I'm studying and even though it probably won't get me a "good job" right away post-grad, I'm content in my decision. My only regret was not going to RU as a freshman.
Yes, I am taking on a risk for studying something I enjoy, but my parents raised me to to be concerned about financial things, to put happiness first, then money. I'm enjoying what I'm studying and even though it probably won't get me a "good job" right away post-grad, I'm content in my decision. My only regret was not going to RU as a freshman.
Yeah, im not sure I really agree with that sort of thinking. I personally think financial responsibility is one of the more important aspect in life. I agree that money isnt everything, but you can be financially responsible and still pursue what you enjoy. It's just important to recognize that if what you enjoy doesnt pay well, then you are going to have to be happy with the living situation that affords you. Life is about compromises, and learning how to manage money is one of the more important trades that everyone should learn.
My dad did something for me with college that I intend to mirror with any offspring I have. I went to school full time and then went directly to work for however many hours were left in the work day plus any overtime Monday thru Friday. I put a certain percebtage of each paycheck to the side to never be touched. My dad required a certain amount of the leftover money to go to my college tuition/books/misc. When I graduated, he gave me an envelope with every dollar I thought was going towards bills. My gift for graduating was he was paying for my education and I was to use the money I unknowingly saved to begin my post college life for expenses that come with moving out and yadda yadda.
Maybe its just me but I value that he did that for me.
=D> This is awesome and your dad sounds awesome. I plan on implementing a very similar thing for my children. They arent going to have a free ride, but I will give them more support then I had.
Hes taught me a lot on saving for my future and taking advantage of being able to save more while my bills are at a minimum in my current time.
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I am actually not bitter that I didnt live a privileged life like you. I actually feel that one of the reasons why my grades were so good, and why I understood the material more then my classmates, is because I was paying for it. 80+% of kids I went to college with were driving beamers, had their schooling paid, and never put in the time the classes required. They just showed up and hoped blessing the class with their presence would get them an A. It didnt by the way. So no... I am not bitter that you have everything handed to you and I didnt. On the contrary I think going the route I did in life taught me work ethic and made me value my education more. And that is all I was saying.....
I am not special. You could do what I did as well, and your education would mean more to you (I guarantee it). Unfortunately you wont learn that lesson about what you really could accomplish if you want it bad enough.
Take daynas advice, im telling you. And whether or not you want to admit it, its clear to everyone who reads what youre saying, youre so upset that people younger than you have a better life that you did.
Maybe its just me but I value that he did that for me.