And just to be clear, If I love a woman, and she tells me that she doesnt want me messing around with other women, I dont do it, its that simple, because thats what she wants, for me its all what the other person will allow and wants, IM not this creepy dude that cheats and runs over women.
if you're gay dude, it's totally cool with me. i accept you for who you are and support your lifestyle
Bleh bleh bleh, im just picky with women, im not a dawg like every otehr dude.
Youre not a dog? You practically condone cheating.
So.... Doesnt mean im a sex fiend, just means, the relationship standards we have are unneeded. We should all accept eachothers needs, thats what love is, im not that horny of a guy, but if I like a chick that is super horny, I could give a shit if she needs to have sex when im not a around, we all need diff things.
Then why call it a relationship? If you truly love someone then they should be all you need. And if you have to be away from each other for a while, whether it's a day or a month, you should be patient enough to wait and use your hand <_>
Sorry but im the one that has been to Iraq, people get lonely when they are away, doesnt matter if you love someone or not, you still have the need to be loved, all the johns that come back from Iraq, to find out they have been cheated on or are being leaved, well wtf do you expect, and how many murders have happened because of a dude gets back from Iraq and some chick is cheating, there is no reason to be mad, its just human nature, people get lonely. Its just like the Rockstars, and NFL stars, taht are traveling all the time, sure they miss there wives, but they only get to see them every so often, most of them cheat, there not cheating on the emotional level like they love those women, and there wives do the same thing.
It'a not hard to go out and by sex toys and hang out with your girlfriends for the comfort factor. I know enough people that are with guys in the service and this has never happened. Sorry to say but if a girl does that, she never really loved you and if it didn't happen that way, they would have left them another way. If you truly are in love with someone, no one else will do. I'd wait years for my guy, I don't care. They way you're making it sound it's like sex is one thing and emotions are a whole other ball park. Like sex is just pleasure and has no connections to emotions. I beg to differ. Cheating is low and I will admit I've done it for quite a few reasons. Never will I do it again. I donno about other people but if there is no trust, there's no point in having a relationship. Swingers and open relationships are a different story though, but I don't get it and never will.
Exactly sex is completely separate from emotions, I know you have been taught differently, but its true, Sex is sex, and love is love.
And as far as trust, if you trust someone on the emotional level, and you truly believe they love you, why would you care if they randomly had sex, because of many different factors, lonelyness, under the influence, etc etc, now if they were spending a lot of time with that person then its a diff story, but if its a one time thing, im not gonna be mad at my woman.
And just to be clear, If I love a woman, and she tells me that she doesnt want me messing around with other women, I dont do it, its that simple, because thats what she wants, for me its all what the other person will allow and wants, IM not this creepy dude that cheats and runs over women.
That's how you've been making it sound tho <_>
Yeah I know because you already have these preset notions and Ideas, im a whole nother mother, somebody with completely diff ideas then the norm, so you cant lump me, with your normal fair.
And as far as trust, if you trust someone on the emotional level, and you truly believe they love you, why would you care if they randomly had sex, because of many different factors, lonelyness, under the influence, etc etc, now if they were spending a lot of time with that person then its a diff story, but if its a one time thing, im not gonna be mad at my woman.
If Marc would do that, I'd feel sick and betrayed to say the least. I've been cheated on my whole life pretty much and I've always found out either by someone telling me what they saw or what they found via internet. I have even stumbled on shit via internet when they thought they were sly. I would be pissed if that happened to me again. To me, love and sex are connected. If you have a friend with benefits and you have sex often, you're highly likely to develop feelings for that person. It's happened to mulitiple friends of mine, even guys.
And as far as trust, if you trust someone on the emotional level, and you truly believe they love you, why would you care if they randomly had sex, because of many different factors, lonelyness, under the influence, etc etc, now if they were spending a lot of time with that person then its a diff story, but if its a one time thing, im not gonna be mad at my woman.
If Marc would do that, I'd feel sick and betrayed to say the least. I've been cheated on my whole life pretty much and I've always found out either by someone telling me what they saw or what they found via internet. I have even stumbled on shit via internet when they thought they were sly. I would be pissed if that happened to me again. To me, love and sex are connected. If you have a friend with benefits and you have sex often, you're highly likely to develop feelings for that person. It's happened to mulitiple friends of mine, even guys.
Well you felt betrayed prolly because they felt the need to hide it from you, because they knew you didnt like it, maybe if you werent lookin out for it and paranoid about it, they wouldnt do it, maybe they still would, because that type of shit drives the other person away, I just think whatever I dont know doesnt hurt me, just be honest with your partner about stuff, talk things out, and maybe the cheating wont occur.
And as far as trust, if you trust someone on the emotional level, and you truly believe they love you, why would you care if they randomly had sex, because of many different factors, lonelyness, under the influence, etc etc, now if they were spending a lot of time with that person then its a diff story, but if its a one time thing, im not gonna be mad at my woman.
If Marc would do that, I'd feel sick and betrayed to say the least. I've been cheated on my whole life pretty much and I've always found out either by someone telling me what they saw or what they found via internet. I have even stumbled on shit via internet when they thought they were sly. I would be pissed if that happened to me again. To me, love and sex are connected. If you have a friend with benefits and you have sex often, you're highly likely to develop feelings for that person. It's happened to mulitiple friends of mine, even guys.
Well you felt betrayed prolly because they felt the need to hide it from you, because they knew you didnt like it, maybe if you werent lookin out for it and paranoid about it, they wouldnt do it, maybe they still would, I just think whatever I dont know doesnt hurt me, just be honest with your partner about stuff, talk things out, and maybe the cheating wont occur.
I wasn't looking out for it when all of it happened. If you look then you obv don't trust them anyway. A friend IM'd me once and told me he saw the guy I was with and loved love up on someone else where we all hang out. Another time I stumbled upon myspace emails. If someone tells me, "Hey, check my myspace often to get rid of the bs"...don't talk to someone else and try to hide it. Imo, people shouldn't cheat at all. Just be friends and fuck in the side if you feel the need to be with others sexually as well. But I wouldn't want to have sexual benefits with a friend knowing they sleep around...that's how std's n shit spread.
But was this like a high school thing, where its just puppy love, a lot of people dont grow up till there in there mid 20's nowadays, I wouldnt be to upset about it.
And I agree with you on the jsut be friends thing, I have a couple "friends with benefits", which is a good thing, cuz you know you will always be friends and never have a falling out, thats the scary part about relationships, especially if you like the person, im always afraid to ruin the friendship for life, if its a person I trully enjoy.
But was this like a high school thing, where its just puppy love, a lot of people dont grow up till there in there mid 20's nowadays, I wouldnt be to upset about it.
Yes it was, but it wasn't puppy love. I actually fell in love with him n he fell in love with me but wanted to be witj other people not just in bed. He lost his virginity to me and wanted to see what else was out there. At the time I was pissed and all kinds of shit but I understood it later over time. But everything was cut short when I was 15 by some very tragic events. I'll never know what would have happened now
And I agree with you on the jsut be friends thing, I have a couple "friends with benefits", which is a good thing, cuz you know you will always be friends and never have a falling out, thats the scary part about relationships, especially if you like the person, im always afraid to ruin the friendship for life, if its a person I trully enjoy.
As long as you're both open and have a mutual understanding of what's up that shouldn't happen. But if she develops feelings in any way, she should tell you so that should be avoided
But was this like a high school thing, where its just puppy love, a lot of people dont grow up till there in there mid 20's nowadays, I wouldnt be to upset about it.
Yes it was, but it wasn't puppy love. I actually fell in love with him n he fell in love with me but wanted to be witj other people not just in bed. He lost his virginity to me and wanted to see what else was out there. At the time I was pissed and all kinds of shit but I understood it later over time. But everything was cut short when I was 15 by some very tragic events. I'll never know what would have happened now
Well Im just gonna say ussually high school love doesnt last, people go through changes and different phases to much during that time period, they are still trying to learn who they are, only a few get lucky with there high school love, like I said dont be upset about that shit, people are living longer than ever now days, and at the same time people. are taking longer to grow up, personally I think 18 nowadays is like the olden days 12, at one point in time 12 year olds were forced to grow up and be men and women, needed to put food on the table, now thats not necessary, we get extended child hoods.
And I agree with you on the jsut be friends thing, I have a couple "friends with benefits", which is a good thing, cuz you know you will always be friends and never have a falling out, thats the scary part about relationships, especially if you like the person, im always afraid to ruin the friendship for life, if its a person I trully enjoy.
As long as you're both open and have a mutual understanding of what's up that shouldn't happen. But if she develops feelings in any way, she should tell you so that should be avoided
Yeah Ive been through that song and dance, prolly my best chick friend heather, we always had this big thing for eachother, and we were dating people, when I was single, and then I was dating when she was single, she dated one of my best friends for about 3 years, and they always said Dan and Heather were doin something on the side when it was never happening, then they finally broke up, and we did everything together, started to date, and everybody said OH we knew that was gonna happen, and then both of us got in trouble with all of our friends, so we had to breakup and stay away from eachother to make amends, in the end though she got blamed for everything, and I was able to clear my name with my friends, but it took a long time, we both moved in diff directions but every so often we get an itch and have to talk to eachother, and get swept up again.
But was this like a high school thing, where its just puppy love, a lot of people dont grow up till there in there mid 20's nowadays, I wouldnt be to upset about it.
Yes it was, but it wasn't puppy love. I actually fell in love with him n he fell in love with me but wanted to be witj other people not just in bed. He lost his virginity to me and wanted to see what else was out there. At the time I was pissed and all kinds of shit but I understood it later over time. But everything was cut short when I was 15 by some very tragic events. I'll never know what would have happened now
Well Im just gonna say ussually high school love doesnt last, people go through changes and different phases to much during that time period, they are still trying to learn who they are, only a few get lucky with there high school love, like I said dont be upset about that shit, people are living longer than ever now days, and at the same time people. are taking longer to grow up, personally I think 18 nowadays is like the olden days 12, at one point in time 12 year olds were forced to grow up and be men and women, needed to put food on the table, now thats not necessary, we get extended child hoods.
Yeah, but I was told he planned on getting back with me by his brother and a few others. He was just taken away before that could happen. I knew who I was back in high school and I'm pretty sure he knew who he was. Certain things have made me stronger and smarter since then. And people change all the time. The glorious thing about true love is that you stay with em through all changes and everything else, because to you they're worth the world.
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