I've also been in a relationship where I would get guilt tripped everytime I'd try and break it off. So I'd go back and say nevermind. Eventually I tried cheating, that didn't work either. Eventually I was able to break it off with him reluctantly accepting it. What a 6 year adventure that was )
I've also been in a relationship where I would get guilt tripped everytime I'd try and break it off. So I'd go back and say nevermind. Eventually I tried cheating, that didn't work either. Eventually I was able to break it off with him reluctantly accepting it. What a 6 year adventure that was )
I wouldn't go that far. Then again, you've only been in one relationship that included no pda/kisses/whatever the fuck anywhere, correct?
I've been in two relationships. I've kissed girls before. Never felt the need to cheat.
Look, it doesn't matter if murdering is "worse". What is unethical is unethical. I don't know why that's so hard to grasp. When you cheat, you give in to your own selfish instincts, reject rationality, and hurt somebody.
What would you do if you were in the situation, you're with someone and you thoroughly enjoy being around/with them, You eventually meet someone else who you're just friends with, but you eventually realize you feel equal, if not more of an attraction to this person rather than whom you're with. (I don't mean physical attraction, overall).
Not saying you ever will be, just curious.
If I seriously felt that way I'd break it off with the first girl first. Tell her I dont feel the same way about her any more. And then maybe go for the second girl.
If it was the other way around, and I knew the girl had a boyfriend. I'd stop her. Point out that she has a boyfriend. Tell to think about what she's doing and about her feelings. And tell her to handle it from there, but as longs as she had a boyfriend I'd play no part in her slutlust.
Breaking up with someone you're not in love with anymore when they are with you still also hurts them. I get what you're trying to get across, but the whole murder thing is a bit overboard to me.
In the long run though, Im sure they'd rather you be honest and upfront about your feelings instead of sneaking about behind them and cheating. Because its going to be a Hell of a lot worse when they find out about that.
Stop all contact for a while. I know sometimes those feelings never go away. Im probably never going to completely get over my friend/second ex. And she will probably never have feelings for me again. But ive accepted it. And im glad she told me early on instead of wasting both of our time and energy (and money) on something that wouldnt have worked, and had her cheat.
Honestly it affects how you percieve others too. Its hard to get into other relationships and trust others when they cheat on you.
I've also been in a relationship where I would get guilt tripped everytime I'd try and break it off. So I'd go back and say nevermind. Eventually I tried cheating, that didn't work either. Eventually I was able to break it off with him reluctantly accepting it. What a 6 year adventure that was )
I wouldn't go that far. Then again, you've only been in one relationship that included no pda/kisses/whatever the fuck anywhere, correct?
I've been in two relationships. I've kissed girls before. Never felt the need to cheat.
Look, it doesn't matter if murdering is "worse". What is unethical is unethical. I don't know why that's so hard to grasp. When you cheat, you give in to your own selfish instincts, reject rationality, and hurt somebody.
What would you do if you were in the situation, you're with someone and you thoroughly enjoy being around/with them, You eventually meet someone else who you're just friends with, but you eventually realize you feel equal, if not more of an attraction to this person rather than whom you're with. (I don't mean physical attraction, overall).
I can tell you right now what happened in my circumstance was not specifically cause she wanted to "bone" me, it was a combination of several things and instances. We didn't even have sex then, but then again you don't have to for it to be considered cheating.
All I'm saying is don't be an asshole. You can seriously emotionally hurt somebody by cheating on them. It's beyond my comprehension we're having this conversation right now. I thought it was pretty accepted cheating is a scummy thing to do.
I'm not saying i fucking condone it lol, all I'm saying is that if someone does it, it's not ALWAYS specifically cause they're "slutty".
It's weird how things turn out sometimes, though, the guy she was with cheated on her multiple times before anything ever happened with us. She actually forgave him when it was all said and done, but they knew that it obviously wasn't gonna work out, and went separate ways.
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Look, it doesn't matter if murdering is "worse". What is unethical is unethical. I don't know why that's so hard to grasp. When you cheat, you give in to your own selfish instincts, reject rationality, and hurt somebody.
If I seriously felt that way I'd break it off with the first girl first. Tell her I dont feel the same way about her any more. And then maybe go for the second girl.
If it was the other way around, and I knew the girl had a boyfriend. I'd stop her. Point out that she has a boyfriend. Tell to think about what she's doing and about her feelings. And tell her to handle it from there, but as longs as she had a boyfriend I'd play no part in her slutlust.
Stop all contact for a while. I know sometimes those feelings never go away. Im probably never going to completely get over my friend/second ex. And she will probably never have feelings for me again. But ive accepted it. And im glad she told me early on instead of wasting both of our time and energy (and money) on something that wouldnt have worked, and had her cheat.
Honestly it affects how you percieve others too. Its hard to get into other relationships and trust others when they cheat on you.
It's weird how things turn out sometimes, though, the guy she was with cheated on her multiple times before anything ever happened with us. She actually forgave him when it was all said and done, but they knew that it obviously wasn't gonna work out, and went separate ways.